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the overlap of linguistic appropriation and race in a social context as diverse and historically loaded with abuse as the US is fascinating—especially when it repeats certain patterns

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[–] Sibshops@lemmy.myserv.one 36 points 6 days ago (3 children)

To this day, I don't really know the new way to use the skull emoji. 💀

[–] volvoxvsmarla@sopuli.xyz 19 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 12 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

🍟👂🐴➕️🍕⬆️🐔

[–] mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

what was the old way? I never really saw it used before the current use. afaik it either is to be taken literally as saying dead/death, or as tongue in cheek "haha this is painful / cringe"

for example: "oh of course this company sends you in an endless loop from the general help page to a specific help page back to the general help page, neither of which have the resources promised by the other page" — "💀"

[–] Sibshops@lemmy.myserv.one 3 points 6 days ago

I believe new way is like dying from laughter. So it's a replacement for 🤣.

💀🪫🚡🥀🗿🫩

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 32 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Try making a statement on reddit that’s anywhere near controversial. You’ll get plenty of replies from people who don’t know what words mean.

[–] mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca 18 points 6 days ago

oh mate dw that happens here too

[–] Griffus@lemmy.zip 25 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Gen Z has energies like millennial had astrology

it's not generational. "energy" in that sense trickles down from older Influencers, especially from contemporary spirituality (adjacent to reiki and aliens). Gen Z is just making the terms more popular and general.

[–] bricklove@midwest.social 21 points 6 days ago (2 children)

White guy who doesn't say unc here, does it really mean uncool? I thought it was the weird uncle sense

[–] 4am@lemmy.zip 56 points 6 days ago (2 children)

No, it means “uncle” as in older out of touch; “unc status” is like a lesson harsh “ok boomer”

Hence the comment “here they go trying to change our shit again”

[–] dreadbeef@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

unc is also how black americans call each other in respect if its a younger person talking to someone whos their uncles age (like kuya in tagalog, but also like a literal uncle aka tito in tagalog), which is what they mean about changing "our" shit because we are seeing white people changing the meaning of unc to no longer be respectful, juat like white people changed the meaning of woke. White people dont hold white people accountable for stealing shit without attribution, just like rock and roll. Black people call each other brothers and sisters and uncles and aunties for a (hopefully) obvious reason that shouldnt neat repeating. If you cant intuit it, you had a poor education regarding slavery in america.

Thank you, I've only ever heard it used in the respectful sense among Black (and sometimes Native American) people. I get language evolves sometimes but it sucks they turn positive things into negative things, and I'd argue that's very intentional.

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago

I’ve also heard it used literally/fondly, when addressing an uncle or uncle-like figure. It’s not always bad.

[–] drdiddlybadger@pawb.social 16 points 6 days ago

Its literally aavenfor Uncle or older masculine figure.

[–] AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

It's the sound that you make when lifting something heavy. Nothing to do with naming.

[–] A_norny_mousse@feddit.org 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] Zgierwoj@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

African-american vernacular English probably

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] drdiddlybadger@pawb.social 15 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Because calling it black people dialect doesn't quite work well in an academic context and it's highly specific to american black diaspora.

[–] dreadbeef@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

y here meant "yes" as in the affirmative, not y as in "why?"

gen z vs millenial/boomer text (im a millenial, been getting used to gen z internet vernacular) ;)

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 1 points 3 days ago

omg lol thanks i didn’t get this miscommunication either 😭

[–] drdiddlybadger@pawb.social 2 points 4 days ago

Lmfaooo I didn't consider that at all.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 3 points 6 days ago

that’s a coarse way of putting it but sure

more precisely there’s millions of black people in the world and a good chunk of them aren’t african american. it’s just precise use of language to describe language.

[–] Saapas@piefed.zip 1 points 5 days ago

Very spooky 

[–] CallMeButtLove@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

You mean it isn't universal naming convention?

[–] RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

That's "yu-en-cee".

[–] IndieGoblin@lemmy.4d2.org -3 points 6 days ago

Weirdly racist.