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As a dad now with a trans son I so get it. I'm blessed in I know who and what I am. I will never "get" what's going on in his head or understand what trans is or any of that shit. But I love him, I want him happy and I will defend whatever he decides to be until the ends of the world.
Note to everyone and self I use he/him because in my simple brain he has a dick he's a boy. Like me he doesn't give a shit because we joke about the old meme "I identify as an attack helicopter" and I tell people my pronouns are "dumb/ass" or if I'm being a dick "she/him"
Digressions aside. If it doesn't hurt anyone, and it makes someone happy, just let them be happy.
How much effort does it take to not use he/him though? Are you sure they're just saying they don't care so you don't feel bad about it?
I dunno, obviously I don't know you or your kid and you seem to be handling it much better than many would... It just seems weird to be so ambivalent to something so fundamental about your child.
I've had a good number of trans people in my classes over the years. I've frankly been shocked by the number of people who do not care if you guess their gender correctly. Obviously it isn't the norm, but they are out there.
I can't speak for everyone, but in my experience I'll not express anything externally when property/improperly gendered, but I'll still feel happy/sad when it happens.
Fair enough! I personally try to stick to preferred names and pronouns, but to err is human and I do make mistakes pretty often.
Yeah, and I don't think any reasonable person will hold a grudge against a mistake.