196
Community Rules
You must post before you leave
Be nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).
Block or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.
Use content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. Most posts with content warnings likely need to be marked NSFW.
Most 196 posts are memes, shitposts, cute images, or even just recent things that happened, etc. There is no real theme, but try to avoid posts that are very inflammatory, offensive, very low quality, or very "off topic".
Bigotry is not allowed, this includes (but is not limited to): Homophobia, Transphobia, Racism, Sexism, Abelism, Classism, or discrimination based on things like Ethnicity, Nationality, Language, or Religion.
Avoid shilling for corporations, posting advertisements, or promoting exploitation of workers.
Proselytization, support, or defense of authoritarianism is not welcome. This includes but is not limited to: imperialism, nationalism, genocide denial, ethnic or racial supremacy, fascism, Nazism, Marxism-Leninism, Maoism, etc.
Avoid AI generated content.
Avoid misinformation.
Avoid incomprehensible posts.
No threats or personal attacks.
No spam.
Moderator Guidelines
Moderator Guidelines
- Don’t be mean to users. Be gentle or neutral.
- Most moderator actions which have a modlog message should include your username.
- When in doubt about whether or not a user is problematic, send them a DM.
- Don’t waste time debating/arguing with problematic users.
- Assume the best, but don’t tolerate sealioning/just asking questions/concern trolling.
- Ask another mod to take over cases you struggle with, if you get tired, or when things get personal.
- Ask the other mods for advice when things get complicated.
- Share everything you do in the mod matrix, both so several mods aren't unknowingly handling the same issues, but also so you can receive feedback on what you intend to do.
- Don't rush mod actions. If a case doesn't need to be handled right away, consider taking a short break before getting to it. This is to say, cool down and make room for feedback.
- Don’t perform too much moderation in the comments, except if you want a verdict to be public or to ask people to dial a convo down/stop. Single comment warnings are okay.
- Send users concise DMs about verdicts about them, such as bans etc, except in cases where it is clear we don’t want them at all, such as obvious transphobes. No need to notify someone they haven’t been banned of course.
- Explain to a user why their behavior is problematic and how it is distressing others rather than engage with whatever they are saying. Ask them to avoid this in the future and send them packing if they do not comply.
- First warn users, then temp ban them, then finally perma ban them when they break the rules or act inappropriately. Skip steps if necessary.
- Use neutral statements like “this statement can be considered transphobic” rather than “you are being transphobic”.
- No large decisions or actions without community input (polls or meta posts f.ex.).
- Large internal decisions (such as ousting a mod) might require a vote, needing more than 50% of the votes to pass. Also consider asking the community for feedback.
- Remember you are a voluntary moderator. You don’t get paid. Take a break when you need one. Perhaps ask another moderator to step in if necessary.
view the rest of the comments
Sorry mate, you don't know much science about the topic. The de-transition rate is actually really low. Like 1-2% low and most of those cases are due to family pressure rather than not being trans.
That's not a fad, especially as we've got thousands of years of history for trans people and they are in every culture whether that culture is supporting or not.
Thanks for your support though. Every trans person ought to have someone who if not understands them, at least accepts them.
The number of trans people has exploded! But this is more to do with it being socially acceptable. It's like being left handed Long story short, gender dysphoria and people being trans has always been a thing, but with more acceptance comes more visibility
Detransitioners get a bad rap that they don't deserve. But that comes from people using their detransition to fight against trans rights. I've never met someone who's detransitioned, but I wouldn't ever hold it against them. It's incredibly hard to transition either way, and many of those support networks exist for trans people, but not for those who transition to their sex at birth.
Edit: Actually I have met a detransitioner, but he had done so because his family and country were hostile towards him
Most people who detransition don't hold bad opinions towards the trans community though and sometimes they are still non-binary even if they aren't medically transitioning.
If you don't mind me asking, do you have any experience with someone who has detransitioned?
Those videos can be deceptive, because people on the far right tend to promote them a lot. It's because that sort of thing is scary, like a plane crash. But despite well-known investigations and news stories, plane crashes are not that common and traveling by plane is the safest form of travel. It's the same with trans people.
My Hope and dream is that everybody can explore their own gender identity and not be judged for it. If they don't want to gender bend or want to go back to their gender at birth, I hope they can get the resources they need.
But transgender medicine is life-saving medicine. I know because I have first-hand experience. Had I not transitioned, my life would be more of a hell than it currently is.
I know some people on Lemmy are probably not happy with your opinions, but I'm always willing to talk to people. Thanks for listening! <3