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[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 152 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

In Colombia we have this tradition of making "old guy" dolls that are burn on new years eve with messages from all the things we want to left behind. When my cousin changed his name, we named the old guy with his dead name and burned it.

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 31 points 1 week ago

damn, that's sick

[–] Eladriagon@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 week ago

I’m totally doing this when I come out with a name change. Freakin epic. 🤘

[–] cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Is it cultural appropriation if I steal this?

Because I'm definitely stealing this.

[–] Bysmuth@lemmy.zip 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Mind your local laws regarding burning things out in the open. But i think it would be super cool if people started adopting this. I don't know how similar the tradition is to the colombian one, but in ecuador the doll is called the "old year". It's stuffed with old newspaper and sawdust, clothed in old, unusable pants and shirt and wears a papier-mâché mask of whatever you want. It's common to put a mask of a politician

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[–] als@lemmy.blahaj.zone 140 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

When someone I know changed her name, her parents decided that they would use a new name but it wouldn't be the one that she wanted, it would be similar. So my friend called their mum Carol, instead of Caroline, and the problem quickly solved itself.

[–] implosive_sprig@beehaw.org 36 points 1 week ago

In some families, this would lead to a cold war where they just keep using the wrong names for each other until death.

Future generations grow up thinking those are their actual names because it's what they've always called each other.

[–] cybervseas@lemmy.world 99 points 1 week ago

Rulesgiving

[–] Formfiller@lemmy.world 46 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Modern problems require modern solutions. I feel like I should do this with faux brainwashed idiots every time they want to spout off one of their sheeple talking points

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[–] inkzombie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

lol when I asked my gay brother to put effort into my name and pronouns he cried and said I was emotionally manipulating him

[–] TipRing@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago

I'm a cis gay dude with a trans sister. Your brother is a jerk. I wasn't perfect when my sister came out to me, but I put in the modest amount of effort to reframe my internal concept of her to reflect her true self. I did so because she is important to me and I want her in my life.

[–] Midnitte@beehaw.org 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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