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[–] ThePyroPython@lemmy.world 101 points 2 weeks ago (50 children)

Please, instead of more satirising toxic masculinity, can we have some more depictions of positive masculinity in lead roles like Aragorn from LotR?

Also, please feel free to list some good examples of positive masculinity in replies below because I and others I know could benefit from seeing more of that.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 27 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (4 children)

Also, please feel free to list some good examples of positive masculinity

Star Trek is kinda cheating, but Picard and Riker. Although some of Riker's behaviour could be seen as "use and abuse of power for sex" in some scenarios, like hitting on people at 10 forward while serving as first officer in the ship they are in.

I still love the scene where for some reason Worf and Riker are in 10 forward, Riker is hitting on ... someone and Worf says he wants to talk to that person. Riker's reaction is basically "Oh shit, you wanted to get with her? All good my man, I'll get out the way, you know me, dime's a dozen, I fuck everyone".

EDIT : I really like the way Star trek has lots of different examples on leadership styles and how there's multiple ways of being a good leader. Even Jellico, although his way of handling a transition sucks.

[–] 1SimpleTailor@startrek.website 10 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Most men in Star Trek would fall into this category. Sisko fills the top spot for me though, for his portrayal as a supportive, affectionate, and masculine father while balancing the responsibilities of wartime leadership.

[–] TerrabyteMarx@quokk.au 5 points 2 weeks ago

Even Kirk falls into this category.

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