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Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 10 hours ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works

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[–] hushable@lemmy.world 67 points 4 hours ago (4 children)

I have a similar story to share.

When I was in my early 20s I briefly dated a girl who told me she was having feelings for another woman and was being curious, she eventually broke up with me in order to be with her, but we remained good friends after that.

Eventually she came out as a lesbian and when I told her that I was bi she immediately ended our friendship all even yelled some slurs at me.

AFAIK she's married with a guy and has kids now

[–] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 6 points 2 hours ago

Maybe calling women lesbians instead of gay allows people to be homophobic while accepting lesbians. After all, the word was invented by men who thought women couldn't be gay the way men can.

[–] GeriatricGambino@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Sorry you had to experience this bullshit. I think people like that lack the emotional intelligence to see other people as equals. Instead they only value them as much as whatever personal satisfaction they extract out of them. Intrinsically you've lost nothing of value that day, but I know the sudden betrayal of the friendship you thought you had can be shocking and hurtful.

[–] davidagain@lemmy.world 19 points 4 hours ago

Wow, that's some intense double standards there.

[–] vivalapivo@lemmy.today 8 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

Eventually she came out as a lesbian and when I told her that I was bi she immediately ended our friendship

Can't really imagine it. Even stubborn homophobes do not end friendship over someone coming out. A lot of them just become curious and eventually accepting. Am not LGBTQ+ though, so my judgement is kinda not reliable, but still.

The woman you're talking about is exceptionally weird and she can go fuck herself

[–] Red_October@piefed.world 9 points 54 minutes ago

It's adorable that you think "stubborn homophobes" wouldn't end a friendship over someone coming out. I genuinely wish they did just become curious and eventually accepting, instead of immediately rejecting and intimidating and expressing feelings of disgust and revulsion.

[–] porksnort@slrpnk.net 16 points 3 hours ago

Your experience is valid, as it happened to you and none of us in this thread were there probably anyway.

In my experience, friends don’t end friendships over homophobia. They just suddenly become very busy and they have less and less time to spend with the person who comes out as bi.

‘Bi erasure’ is such a common phenomenon that we invented the term ‘bi erasure’.