It's a shame that Americans have been deprived of community for so long that they feel this way. Accommodating people takes so little effort
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I don't expect shit from anyone. That said, when I'm at one I'm still going to ask if there are options, because why wouldn't I?
That's not be(e)ing very nice, Chris.
If I'm at a BBQ, I've been invited to it. The person who invited me to it absolutely knows that I am vegetarian and have been vegetarian for 28 years. Choosing not to accommodate that would be a pretty horrible thing to do.
And if I bring stuff to cater for myself such as halloumi, veg sausages, etc, don't expect me to share with you!
Stop expecting me to come to your BBQ. Fuck all these social gatherings where alcoholics and meat eaters expect everyone to show up and not do anything different than their unhealthy habits.
Imagine intentionally not accommodating your vegan or vegetarian friends. Absolutely deranged behaviour
Would a vegan/vegetarian buy and cook meat if they hosted a BBQ?
My Vegetarian friend did this yesterday. He was the only vegetarian at the BBQ he threw.
I mean maybe, maybe not. Completely different argument though. You don't have a moral or ethical opposition to eating food that is vegetarian or supporting it as an industry. (Or, at least, you shouldn't and if you do then I have questions)
But they'd make sure that there were gluten free buns if there was someone who couldn't eat gluten, which is a more apt comparison.
I was vegetarian for 11 years, fully plant based for 2, and I did cook meat at events with people who ate meat. No demographic is a singularity, though, and there are many veggie folk who wouldn't, either on ethical grounds or on grounds of having no bloody clue how to cook meat properly.
Which of your “friends” do you dislike so much that you invite them to a bbq but are absolutely unwilling to make food that they will eat?
When I cook I cater to my guests, because I like them, their company, and want them to come and feel welcome.
When I have a BBQ, even where all the guests are meat eaters, I still like to have a potato salad and vegetable skewers and bread and sometimes a regular salad and roasted corn and sometimes roasted eggplant. I like to think if there was a vegetarian there, they'd be well catered for by default without me having to really do anything different. I love meat, and for a BBQ it's typically the star of the show, but you're going to want a supporting cast.
Why invite vegetarians and then not give vegetarian options?
I mean, you shouldn't expect anything particular at a BBQ that you're not bringing yourself or like helping with the planning of. Like, hamburgers and hotdogs are pretty standard, but if I showed up at someone else's BBQ and all they had was ribs I'd be kind of an ass for whining about it.
But like.. why are vegetarian options specifically a problem? Is this something that's coming up? Is there like, a rash of vegetarians throwing a fit about it? Did someone get invited to a BBQ and ask if there'd be a veggie option? You know, like, so they could participate in a social event with their meat-eating friends?
This kind of stuff usually feels to me like people who eat meat and don't want to think about the cost in suffering pointing a finger at people who abstain so they don't have to think about it. Like, I personally do eat meat. I find that my brain functions better with a little animal fat than without. Buuut I'm also well aware of how much torture goes on in the process of making that meat, and I at least try to minimize the calorie to suffering ratio.
That's not to say that I'm going to spend my days criticizing people who don't choose to push against the horrific system of factory farming that supports our societal penchant for meat, but I do think about it. And I have noticed that certain meat-eaters seem to be pretty defensive about it, which generally translates into being shitty to people who don't eat meat.
Posts like this coming unprompted certainly seem like that kind of defensive behavior to me.
Anyway, food for thought.