Join a club. There's fliers everywhere.
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Yeah clubs/societies are the places to meet people. No one wants so socialise in class.
Wow, college has turned rough, to many anxieties, I had fun in college, met new ppl, met my college gf of 3 years no fraternity needed not even socialmedia...and I'm just 44, already someone is calling anon a creep without any prior knowledge of the person or any context, it's that easy now to to judge people and call anyone a creep ...and they are wondering why are ppl lonely, single and anxious
Would this attract someone just like the anime stickers?
Eww, no, it's not Arch
quite likely, but it's not as effective as arch
Bruh it could've been me honestly, so sorry I tend to think when strangers speak to me I'm about to get scammed into something 😭
in my first three years of college i spoke to maybe ten students, pretty much all of them because we were assigned a team project together. only one guy talked to me because we were sitting next to each other at the same class and i started a few short-lived conversations with whoever was next to me before exams if the teacher was taking too long to come.
besides that, many people (almost everyone it seems) came into the college as friend groups from high school. they spoke to each other, but you're not within that friend group and it feels awkward to butt in a conversation where everyone's already highschool friends and you're a stranger.
Key is to live on campus.
Yep. Dorm life you’re stuck meeting people whether you like it or not. I hated our dorms, but I had a lot of fun with the roomies and others I met in the dorms.
I didn't live on campus but I was in a fraternity, was in the tennis club and I worked as a guide for exchange students. There were plenty of opportunities to meet new people and date.
ya if you want to meet people, join a club.
I only ever speak to people I don't already know in the same class when there's class assignments that requires us to.
i don't think we had anything like clubs. there was no campus as they have in america, just a college and a student dorm that was shared with other faculties.
there were some club-like activities like tabletop game evenings every now and then but i always had classes during those and couldn't try them out.
In college, made my own clubs and flyered it around.
One club was the cartoons and cereal club, where people brought cereal and we'd watch 90s cartoons for an hour. Another club was the Bob Ross appreciation club, which was just an excuse to drink wine and paint.
Be weird. You'd be surprised by the people you attract. And it was kind of awesome to go around bragging to people that I got 30 college kids to watch classic Xmen and eat Applejack's.
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Live in the dorms and go to parties. The first week before classes start is magical for making friends.
Helps if you don't start the conversation with " Hello m'lady."
what is THY interest m'lady.
jaw drops to floor, eyes pop out of sockets accompanied by trumpets, heart beats out of chest, awooga awooga sound effect, pulls chain on train whistle that has appeared next to head as steam blows out, slams fists on table, rattling any plates, bowls or silverware, whistles loudly, fireworks shoot from top of head, pants loudly as tongue hangs out of mouth, wipes comically large bead of sweat from forehead, clears throat, straightens tie, combs hair Ahem, you look very lovely.
https://www.reddit.com/r/copypasta/comments/hb4nmh/jaw_drops_to_floor_eyes_pop_out_of_sockets/
It's funny how this post is just a greentext story about a guy trying to talk to a girl in class. But some of the comments are negative or have such divisive vote ratios: assume bad hygiene or "Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women"
Am I the only one that's surprised that the comments are so negative? The interaction from the greentext seems like a somewhat "standard" thing to happen in one's life
It does seem to be a very 21st century thing to treat an unwanted romantic conversational overture as a form of assault.
I suspect it's even more so with terminally online people who are too socially awkward to be able to just brush someone off and move on, without being haunted by it for the next four decades.
I get that sometimes there are men who go too far and make a situation untenable, and absolutely fuck those guys, but overall I think we're going in the wrong direction in society where people just don't talk to each other any more.
as a man who went to university, and had women in my class, never had a negative reaction like that when trying to talk to girls about whatever is relevant.
never tried to pick up girls in class either.
assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
I gotta say, I never had any of these problems in college. And I won't even pretend I had great hygiene or particularly good social skills. The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn't have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Let's set aside the fact that OP is probably lying. When one guy gets ostracized by an entire classroom of other students, it's safe to assume one of two things:
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The classroom is full of bigots who hate This One Guy for a very particular cultural reason (maybe you made a mistake going to South Confederacy Technical College as a black guy looking to meet white chicks)
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The guy is so universally obnoxious that he can't get the time of day from the second biggest loser in the room
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative?
If it was posted on anything but 4chan, maybe. But anyone who knows the reputation of the average 4chan user can come up with a host of reasons why people are avoiding him like the plague.
Honestly, I have seen many classrooms in which no one was talking to anyone. There would be a break in the lecture, and the lecture hall would be absolutely silent for 10-15 minutes until the lecture resumed. Other classes were a bit more chattery, or even way more. As a teacher now, it seems anecdotally that the problem is getting worse, but that’s what every teacher always said (“these younger generations!! Mumble mumble”)
The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn't have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Brother, ain't this the truth.
I didn't make any friends with my same-age classmates just by casually talking.
Then I went to night classes with full grown adults and i was invited to dinners and birthday parties immediately.
The post says that people weren't avoiding him specifically, but no one was talking to one another at all.
The post implies the 30% of men in the class weren't giving him the time of day, either.
So, maybe it was an entire room full of NPCs. Maybe they were all psychic and he was just the odd guy out. Maybe it's a Greentext and you shouldn't take it at face value. Who can say? But as anecdotes go, the "everyone acted like an emotionally sterile zombie hobbling from class to class in a daze" sounds... out of line with my experience in virtually any social setting. Nevermind one with dozens of teenagers all packed in together.
Like, I've got a few friends who teach high school. And the "I've got these kids who won't stfu during class" stories are a regular part of the "how was your day?" conversation. What magic is happening between Senior HS and Freshman College that turns everyone's most pernicious socializing instincts off in this one guy's classroom?
Now, if I'm someone's parent and I'm talking to my kid after school... and I ask how their day was? Did you make any new friends? What's your homework? Can you name any of your teachers? Do you remember what grade you're in? And they just give me nothing because they're burned out? That's extremely normal.
I agree. If this were a screenshot from pretty much any other app/site that isn't 4chan, the response would be different.
Seriously, if someone were to create an account and tell this exact story on Tumblr or something, and screenshot it here on Lemmy, they'd get completely different responses.
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students arnt trying to date while they are class, and the guy is a college creep, hes essentially like brian from family guy that went to college to pickup girls, eventhough he doesnt go there., i had unforunate event of having to listening to one of these pickup artists(my bro was watching) and the creep went to a college library to pickup some chicks, but he was also condescending," oh because she is taking a low level math, i passed in mS in college MEANS THE girl isnt bright at all" , and he was indicating the girl is stupid so it should be easy.
Also, when people say meet others at college they don't mean in the classes, especially not in the lecture halls lol. They mean in the social events...
I was pretty shy when I started college and have always disliked social events. I skipped a few years in highschool so I was young when I started. Combined with working 30+ hours a week to pay for college and my social life was pretty dead.
My junior/senior year I decided to sit next to the most beautiful woman in class on day one. I would then smile, say hello, and leave them alone. Then smile, say goodbye at the end of class and leave.
A few weeks of this and most of them started talking to me a bit before or after class. By mid-terms I was friendly with a few beautiful women and had a couple dates. The last quarter of my senior year, I sat down next to my now wife.
I did get called out by my wife on knowing so many beautiful women when we were dating. She was a bit annoyed but I did sit down next to her after all.
My friend group was always on the nerdier side in high school. One thing I'm really glad we did come senior year was we'd play poker, and the loser, if single, would be have to go and ask a random gal out on a date (with the rest of the group trying-yet-failing to act casual hanging out nearby to make sure it happened lol)
It's liberating to know that, as long as you're not being a creep, you can just talk to someone you think is cute and ask them out. It was especially nice to know back in the high school days lol.
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Generally, yes, but if you're a pleasant person to be around you can easily get things going from lectures as well. You just need to strike up a conversation like a normal person and be friendly. The problem most of these people have is they treat women like something to be won, when instead they're just people.
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I've never had such an easy time talking to girls as I did in college. That's with me being short AF, quiet, and not particularly good looking. Either something has changed since then or OP has bad vibes.
the "anon" sounded like a creep that just goes around public places where they are not supposed to be. like a office party, COLLEGE class, library. especially while class is in session and your trying to flirt with someone trying to pay attention tot he teacher. probably got sussed out immediately. this goes the same for college libraries, if arnt in the class and dont know the person or studied together, or met in the same classes.
Something has. I haven't seen a student speak to another student in a classroom for a long time now.
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