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[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I did provide justification for it, it's an insult almost always levied against straight men acting as sycophants for other straight men. Neither of them are having sex with each other, it's meant to make the submission especially shameful by drawing on the societal disgust towards gay men and straight/bi women. Socially, it has always been an insult to outright call straight men "gay" or the f-slur, because the shame and hatred for queer folk is built-in. This just extends that to the act of submission.

Secondly, I by no means made up this analysis, it's existed for a long time (as did analysis of the r-word before it became accepted as ableist by the general population). Here's some example articles/threads/etc:

The list goes on. It isn't a culture shift, it's still a pejorative that is only insulting if you think the act itself is shameful or bad, and it's nearly always used against straight men.