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[–] MummysLittleBloodSlut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 51 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

When I was homeless, I stayed at a Salvation Army shelter. They knew I was trans and that my legal gender is male, but they put me in the women and families area. I never got misgendered or disrespected while I was there.

[–] cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 49 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

That is, last I checked, against policy. Someone decided personally to have a little mutiny and not be a dick.

[–] MummysLittleBloodSlut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

It seemed like everyone knew and was cool about it. I was on a first name basis with all the staff and residents. I had to go to the front office every night to get my HRT for the first few weeks until I saw a doctor and got a note that says I can take my own medication. I never had a problem getting my estrogen pills. And at one point a crazy guy developed a harmless obsession with me and kept bugging the staff about seeing me. They told him he's not allowed in the women's and families area and he just has to wait until I come to the mess hall for lunch or dinner. He wanted my help finding aliens or something, the point is all the staff knew where I was and that I was supposed to be there because I'm a girl