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Caption: Throwback to when I was still an egg, bought my first women's clothes and got greeted by this card.

Below is a card saying "Congrats on becoming a (brandname) girl! Let the adventure begin..."

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[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Its ridiculous at how good even the slightest bit of affirmation feels in these early stages. I downloaded Vinted to buy girl stuff and used my chosen name and I guess that was the first time I had done that and I got an automatic email that was like "hi Domi" and I melted. I look forward to being self assured enough to go back to being immune to shitty corpo marketing but today is not that day.

[–] jamie_veal@feddit.org 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Domi! It's you again! Saw you over at c/transfem, saying hello, and regret that I didn't use your name and just went with "Hey there!" :3. Sorry sis!

I should get used to using names more, irl I'm pretty much only using a person's name to get their attention. Probably because I lowkey hated being referred to by my own (nick-)names, huh. God, why does everything make so much sense now.

Gender Euphoria seems to be one hell of a drug. Is that how cis-folks feel through all of their lives, they just got so used to it that it's not as intense?

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Hey no apology necessary! I'm guessing we might be at a similar stage of things because I keep reading stuff, thinking "hey that's exactly what I'm going through" then looking at the name at seeing you. So hey girl! DM me if you ever want to chat <3.

[–] regdog@lemmy.world 107 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Good job not giving any power to a brand. Companies are not people, and should not be treated as such.

[–] jamie_veal@feddit.org 50 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Well, it's in the rules, isn't it? I certainly enjoy Lemmy without ads.

Also, I'm going to steal that picture, should come in handy.

[–] obinice@lemmy.world 38 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

You go girl! 🎉♥️

ᵀʰᶦˢ ᵖᵒˢᵗ ʷᵃˢ ˢᵖᵒⁿˢᵒʳᵉᵈ ᵇʸ ᴿᵃʸᵗʰᵉᵒⁿ.
"ᴿᵃʸᵗʰᵉᵒⁿ, ᵗʰᵉ ᵇᵉˢᵗ ᵃ ᵐᵃⁿ ᶜᵃⁿ ᵍᵉᵗᵎ"

[–] jamie_veal@feddit.org 17 points 4 days ago

If I weren't so euphoric right now due to being referred to as a girl for the first time, I'd be slightly annoyed :3

[–] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 17 points 4 days ago (2 children)

How did you buy women's clothes as an egg? I would've thought you've known at that point

[–] jamie_veal@feddit.org 44 points 4 days ago

Lots of folks cross-dress and are neither trans nor non-binary. It took me a few years to realize that I'm not one of them.

But I guess you could say it was one of the earlier cracks in the shell.

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 3 days ago (1 children)

The egg phase is really, really weird and you can do a lot of stupid stuff during that time

[–] LadyMeow@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago

lol this is so true.

For years, on birthdays blowing out candles, and when I saw a shooting star, what do you suppose I wished for?

If you guessed to be a girl, you nailed it. Still cis though! Like, girl, how?

Smdh. Ah well, we still made it. Sometimes your just need told to wrap your heas around it or something. I try to be kind to myself for missing all those years, while acknowledging that it would be really really nice to get those years back.