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[–] A_Porcupine@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I decided to end a relationship and marriage, after being together for 13 years. For the first time in years I put myself first and realised that I needed to be out of the relationship. Coming out of this has been very difficult and I've been struggling with my mental health since.

I started dating again, and have had two horrible experiences where my feelings were just put aside and it really hurt. Both of which ended up with the relationship ending. It's like I'm not allowed to have feelings or struggle. 😞

[–] TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com 1 points 1 year ago

this comment section is a memorial of injured experiences.

tread carefully.

[–] CaptDust@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I went through the worst depression of my life around 2017, tried to express these feelings to my gf at the time and explain why our romance was failing or why I spent half the day in bed.

Basically got told "poor you", everyone has struggles, snap out of it and be a man. That definitely helped, and didn't push me even deeper into feelings of worthlessness..

I'm doing ok now, but it was the first time I felt comfortable enough with someone to express those emotions, I was at my wits end. The response was eye opening, never again.

[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Always remember that the patriarchy harms everyone

[–] Impassionata@lemmy.world -1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Stop deflecting blame from shitty women. There are shitty women who do shitty things and "the patriarchy" does not excuse their behavior.

Stop worshiping the patriarchy. The patriarchy is not God. The patriarchy is not to blame for every shitty thing a shitty woman does.

Sometimes women are shitty and you make the problem worse by telling everyone it's not their fault because the patriarchy is God in your idiot doctrine.

Edit: I'm not saying the patriarchy isn't real, it definitely is and should be dismantled. But you need to interrogate your own righteousness or you're just spreading neoliberal schlock to make yourself feel better about how women can be shitty to men.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Been dumped, more than twice, immediately after crying in front of a woman. Make of that what you will.

[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's fucked. If I was dating a guy and he cried in front of me it would make me happy to know that he feels safe being vulnerable around me. I would treasure him forever after that.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And my wife is exactly like you. But just sayin', in my experience, most women are not.

And I get it! No woman craves a weak man. No woman says to herself, "I wish my man was a sobbing pile of goo!"

Women want a strong man, a man that protects her from the slings and arrows of life. We can be those men and still cry. But it ain't easy.

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 year ago

These are generalisations and just aren't true.

[–] CaptDust@sh.itjust.works -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I doubt that was it, but okay

[–] misterdoctor@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Absolutely hilarious lack of self-awareness

[–] Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 1 year ago

Things everyone must learn themselves because patriarchy instills in them the opposite:

Women are people
Men are human