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Yeah OP should say "1 therapist is useless".

The problem is you don't know if your therapist might be an asshole before speaking to them.

Yeah this sounds pretty believable to me there's a lot of shitty therapists

when all you have is a hammer everything looks like a nail and stuff

To be fair, black-hole-ing a traumatic memory absolutely happens to people. That said, that reaction is absolutely not how to go about resurfacing that kind of thing. If anything it needs to be handled with way more care than self-reported trauma.

it just comes across like a trollish comment on the internet, a random attack from a stranger who might not only not be doing it for your best interest but even to be hurtful for their own amusement.

And Only time and repetition will be able to tell if it's in good faith or bad faith.

i wish a lady would interrupt my narrative with her baseline trust.

Such a shame it got commandeered, even if it was inevitable from the start

yes, and then they had sex

Most people would say shoes ..

I fucked so many good christian girls (and boys) up the ass in high school.

They all got married as virgins too.

That's the gay part. Fake: man goes to therapy. Gottem.

That is definitely one of the worst ways to hit on someone. "How are you still single" is not the compliment you might think it is.

I mean, as someone who used to be in a similar sort of position:

• Consider going outside and asking random attractive strangers to have sex with me -> no, that would be weird and rude and unpleasant for them, and that would make me feel terrible.
• Consider going outside and interacting with random attractive strangers in a friendly capacity, getting to know them a bit, then asking them to have sex with me -> no, I would be building the friendship under false pretenses. Revealing my desire to have sex with them would be a betrayal of their trust, and would make me feel terrible.
• Go to a bar or club where people commonly congregate with the intention of finding novel sexual partners -> Everyone seems to already know everyone they are talking to. Also, I can barely hear myself think over how loud the music is. Also, I have a creeping feeling that someone is going to stab me, so I move towards the nearest wall and put my back against it, then look in every possible direction as quickly as possible so I can see the threat before it comes. I talk to no one.
• Go to a bar or club, but drink so you're less of an anxious wreck -> proceed to get plastered on the cheapest drinks the bar sells. Feeling that I'm going to be stabbed reduces, but this creates more space for my brain to notice that no one is talking to anyone they don't know. Go home drunk and hating yourself for not figuring this out when everyone else has.
• Hire a prostitute -> No.
• Start online dating account -> get no matches. Max out swipes every day, still no matches.
• Consider getting better pictures for online dating account -> this would be misleading and catfishing. Your pictures should be an authentic representation of who you are.

I'm far past that stage in my life now. But the problem most of these guys have isn't that they are unwilling to put in effort, so much as it is that they have it in their heads that all the forms of effort that would actually be effective are, in one way or another, morally wrong.

finding a good therapist is like dating, but you gotta pay for dates. it's hard finding one that's good for you.