Why do adults have to suffer because parents don’t know how to control their kids?
this post was submitted on 10 Feb 2026
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Because it's not actually about the kids, the kids are just the excuse. That's all they ever are.
So happy. Discord sucks.
Yeah, I agree. I hope Discord both fails as a company and as a concept.
Information siloed inside a non-easily searchable interface? No thank you.
I'm not threatening, I'm gonna do it. We'll see how my game jams go after this. I doubt my entire community will follow me.
Edit: I downloaded Element X for Matrix, and it seems to only be capable of creating a single chat similar to WhatsApp. Tried to download Revolt, and I cant get that one to even send me a verification code to my email. Starting of strong here...
Revolt is now stoat.chat. And I think they might be getting a little slammed with new users.
As someone who made an account a while ago, no issues so far.
Matrix allows you to structure rooms pretty similar to Discord. It's called a "space" that can then have rooms. Also Sub-spaces with more rooms. You can then manage access by inheritance or really granular on a space / room level. E.g. hidden / public rooms and spaces.
A few notes though:
- If you can create a space / room might depend on the Matrix server you are on and what capabilities the server admin gives you.
- There is always the option to completely self-host your Matrix instance - like Lemmy, Mastodon, etc. Depends on how tech savvy you are and if self-hosting is worth it to you ( can mean a ton of work).
- I am not claiming Matrix is a full on Discord replacement. Discord has it's advantages, but so does Matrix if autonomy, privacy, security are important to you. Matrix does have also neat features and bot-ability... but it's clearly not as easy as Discord. Good enough for many FOSS projects / communities though.
- IMO one key concept (besides decentralization / federation) that can be hard to grasp for new users is the concept of the recovery key that you get in addition to your username / password. Also does not help that there is "legacy" Element and Element X which add some confusion as they differ a bit in functionality.
- Personally I really like Matrix. Cinny might be an alternative client that might appeal more to you than Element. If you are into self-hosting tuwunel might be worth a look (or matrix synapse if you want to go with the OG server implementation)
Thanks for the tips! I only just downloaded Matrix. (Element X) to my phone. I'll have to do some more research on it. I personally could probably set up my own instance if I had to, work it to me, probably not. I mostly use discord for game jam hosting these days, and DnD with my friends. So, if the level of effort is high, or the barrier to entry isn't low, I don't imagine ill get a lot of people switching over to the new space. I guess we'll see what happens.
To play around you can either use Element X or go to https://app.element.io/#/welcome and use the Element web version. It's basically the same client. Then create your account with matrix.org - you should be able to create your own space + sub-spaces + rooms to play around with inviting users, get familiar with permissions, etc. There might be limits with video / voice calls - not sure about the public, free matrix.org server.
If Matrix is a good fit you can then look through the offerings of some of the respected hosters listed here: https://matrix.org/ecosystem/hosting/ Then you don't have to do everything yourself. They will maintain the infrastructure and your base installation and you can focus on being just the super user / admin (with your own domain) and build your community.
IMO the only real "hurdle" compared to traditional apps is that in addition to your username / password you also get a "recovery key". That's the key for encryption and people are not used to having an additional key. If you lose that key you can still log in and see new conversions but you will not be able to read old conversations that were encrypted using the old key. A workaround for your community might be to not enable encryption in your community rooms (when creating a room you can decide if its contents are encrypted or not). IMO totally worth the little bit of extra effort, but yeah - not something users are familiar with.
Made by the same team that did s3nd.pics (the imgur alternative. Under heavy Dev at the moment but has promise.
TIL people actually pay for nitro lol.
I've probably paid around 100€/$ in total (been occasionally using and gifting Nitro since 2019 and regularly for about a year). I'll definitely stop it and using Discord if they follow through with this.
I abandoned WhatsApp for Discord after meta got its greedy hooks into it. Do they think people won't just make a new account elsewhere and move on? Millennials have done it every two years ever since MySpace imploded after Fox News' Rupert Murdoch bought it. We have been conditioned to let our accounts go.
(Also text messaging, group chats, phone calls, and video calls are things that come standard on smartphones without need of an app. Texting stupid memes to everyone I know has never been easier. Maybe it's my age, but everyone I regularly talk to on discord is also in my phone. Oh noes, I'll have to "text" instead of "chat." The horror.)
I hate SMS and vastly prefer a real chat platform, in the US it's messenger/insta and in EU and much of Asia it's Whatsapp, line in Japan, kkaotalk in Korea, WeChat/weixin for China, and so on. Discord never crossed over to regular people in my experience for the most part (is the hot girl you met on it?).
Yet again XMPP is ignored in the comments🥲
This sucks. Fully leaving Discord will be hard for me. One server is functioning as a memorial to my Clan leader who died of cancer.
Maybe I need to research a method of archiving or migrating the data I have access to.
do it cowards. leave now.
My community just setup a Matrix instance and we're migrating everyone over. Several already cancelled their subscription.
I actually ran into a colleague in a random room, who is also leaving Discord.
It's pretty nuts, there's a big exodus going on.
Any guides? Been looking at Element but that set up is intimidating.
Are you self hosting? I just set up an instance today and it was extremely easy following the instructions for the ESS Community edition on github.
I was going to run it on an old gaming PC i been using for piHole. I was thinking a VM as I couldn't find a premade container and don't want public stuff running on the machine directly. I was still trying to work my way though reading the docs but got hung up on understanding Kubernetes before starting the setup. I also got sick of fighting Virtual Machine Manager pool location permissions last night.
If you plan on federating, it can end up being pretty resource heavy, so consider either not federating or planning ahead.
What's the federation like? Haven't decided on it yet. Realistically I may convince 10ish people to join so I'm not sure it be worth the hassle.
I'm not trying to say that you can't/shouldn't federate with others. You don't need to federate everything, all channels, etc, nor should you IMO. I found out really quickly that the small server I had set aside for it was not up to the task when I decided to sync up the matrix.org main channels. You need lots of ram, FAST storage, and a good internet connection at bare minimum.
Oh man, I think I just need Synapse and not the full ESS suite. May have been making this harder than I needed.
If you just need a chat server for your and some friends and family, that is almost certainly will work for you.
Nice. I was feeling way over my head with ESS. Thanks!
Sure, no problem. I'm sure you'll get a basic server up and running, it isn't too bad.
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Good! locking away potentially helpful Q&A, discussions, and guides on Discord is fucking stupid.
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