Can't say I agree with the lifestyle, but as long as they keep to themselves I'm willing to overlook it.
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Yeah, but we should draw a border somewhere... Should they really be allowed to adopt children? I'm not sure....
Well my mom knows a straight and says he says ok except he dresses bland.
I just don't understand why they have to go shoving it in everyone's faces like this. Don't they know children could see these pictures?
I know this is a joke but just cause someone is in a straight relationship doesn't mean they're straight. (But it's not like we have a shot either way lmao)
Besides, what's the point of fantasy if you let it be limited by reality?
I'm a biological man, who didn't start dating women until his 20s.
I was into guys first, and then later I began understanding my pansexuality in regards to it all. Perhaps just by coincidence I was around the guys who I'd be attracted to, rather than girls when growing up.
My last few relationships have been with women, however I wouldn't class myself as straight. Ever. If anything one of my exes used to love putting makeup on me and she was happy that she could practise contouring on me.
People are complicated. What goes on inside is sometimes a battlefield of anguish, which takes time to consider and overcome.
(I'm agreeing with your comment, just thought of adding my experience alongside)
"Biological" man sounds like a dogwhistle, could you clarify?
I think someone downvoted you, it was not me though I just wanted to mention.
I apologise if I provided that impression, it wasn't my intention. The truth is I try to be honest at times, and when I get stoned I tend to not think before I type and so sometimes the words I use are the immediate ones I'm finding relevant to use (I hope that makes sense, I took an edible some time ago and it's hitting me a bit hard and I'm doing my best to explain). This is also combined with another thing, the reason why perhaps the words I found relevant to use to describe my experience is due to the biological male part being on my mind quite a lot lately.
To clarify, as you did ask: in recent times, at 37 years of age, I have come to realise that I have always been non-binary since as far as I can remember. From the age of 4 I would question, with great confusion, the divide between male and female gender norms and, fast forward to today, I truly don't think I ever felt as though I belonged in either group.
It's rather difficult for me to describe, however I never quite felt as though my thoughts, my inner feelings, ever reflected those of either male nor female yet somewhere wobbling in-between. Therefore, whilst I am biologically male and quite accepting of this, I do not quite feel as though I can call myself a man. This has been on my mind quite a lot lately, partly as this realisation has been rather freeing in some ways and I am slowly coming to accept myself for who I am, which I am trying to get some confidence about. I have also been thinking a lot about my life, and my behaviours over the years, etc.
I hope this answers your question. Please let me know if I left anything out.
Ah okay, so AMAB (Assigned Male At Birth)? I was like 70% sure you said "biological" to specify it was because you're not conforming to your assigned gender, so good to confirm that is the case! Sorry if this caused some stress, just wanted to check this wasn't a real dogwhistle.
No stress at all. You can never be too sure these days, I suppose.
Not with that attitude
I'm more disappointed that he does duck face for photos..
Wait wait wait—so the actor in Heated Rivalry was… acting?
while you haven't said anything overtly wrong, i'm tired of this particular talking point coming up everytime the LGBTQIA+ community expresses being tired of there being so littile LGBTQIA+ representation within the hollywood system that openly LGBTQIA+ actors can't even get work portraying LGBTQIA+ characters.
so it's clear, it's not your fault that your comment seems like an obvious take. the media outlets that provide commentary on the hollywood system frame it as us whiney gays being unable to discern story from reality. but what we're really saying is we're tired of a system that will take our stories and sell them to us without contributing back to any of our wellbeing except for maybe the writer. you can't tell me no queer actors came for those auditions. have you been to a drama club? queer is assumed to be the default within those spaces, yet to get further in the most visible acting oportunities, you either have to be straight or allow your queerness to be obliterated.
I mean, yes, especially for like trans roles, but also gay and lesbian characters and actors are fairly commonly represented and in many cases, play straight folks as well.
If anything, it's kind of just, "an actor played a role."
Yeah, that’s fair. It is a shame that there wasn’t a gay man cast for a gay man’s role; especially if it would give a chance for someone to make it out of the drama/theater circuit and into film (if they wanted).
How could he do this?
This reminds me of a cartoon of an alley in ancient Athens with the defamatory graffito “SOCRATES IS STRAIGHT” scrawled on the wall
People when they find out actors are acting
Can someone please tell me what this community is actually about? I'm very confused and the community description didnt help.
some people lived in an apartment - apt 195 - and made a subreddit on reddit. it got popular, and then shut down and so they made a 196 as the "next" one
the rule of the subreddit was that when you visited you had to post something- anything - before leaving. That's it.
Oh, that's neat. Thanks.
Also it's gay and chill af. The unspoken rule is also to involve 'rule' in your post title.
When you’re watching Hamnet and realise that both the leads are Irish pretending to be early-modern English.