Sexy losers is GREAT! What a deep cut.

Yeah, as an alcoholic, I don’t think every sexual encounter I’ve had in the past decade or more was mutual rape.

P. Sherman 42 Wallaby Way Sydney

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Time to crack open a cold one.

murder?? what kind of sick predator do you take me for?

i'm a scavenger thank you

This chart is good for hookups. In long term relationships you can negotiate things like asleep and inebriated while sober or through long term safe sane and consensual escalation. Then you get to enjoy things that are hard to enjoy ethically with a stranger. Hell in most kinky contexts most of these are yes and are replaced with a safeword for "no" but you need more trust for that than you can muster with most strangers.

Some people think animals can consent, it's just "non-verbal". Best you can get is sometimes you'll have to restrain (or drug) an animal in heat less. In reality, that's like if pedophilia was okay if the child was teen and extremely horny, in reality teens are more often targeted than pre-pubescent kids, and they also groomed with sexual and/or romantic favors.

I used to go to church at this cult and people are weird. There was this kid there (he's okay now but like, we all grow up a little twisted) who was always making jokes about putting peanut butter on his nethers and having his dog lick it off. One day someone must have reported the jokes and that was the last time (thank gods) we heard them, despite months of telling him that was fucked up.

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Yeah I've been sexually violated in ways like posts like this are usually about (coerced and pressured past my "no"s into situations I didn't want) and while I respect the effort, I feel like they're often in a weird position of overzealous and only really applicable in hookup type situations, they also often ignore more manipulative styles of pressuring a yes.

Hesitation is fine, but it may be good practice to double check if the following yes isn't enthusiastic. The yes is often less important than the enthusiasm in early stages. I've had wonderful nights of tongue wrestling where we never asked, we flirted until it was clearly mutual, and in one case we were hesitating at first because we were both not super comfortable with the age gap (we talked about it after). And we were both drunk, because there's a difference between consensual actions while in an altered state and taking advantage of a drunk person, and that difference largely comes down to enthusiasm and being in a similar state. If I'm one beer in and generally feeling fine I ought to turn down a shitfaced woman who's hitting on me hard, but if I'm right there with her that's fine.

And in long term relationship6s I think the need for enthusiasm reduces. Sometimes you put out when you aren't really in the mood because you love your partner and value the intimacy. That's not being sexually violated unless you were pressured or coerced.

Consent is a discussion that requires genuine nuance, and checklists will always come off as far more clunky than most people's lived experiences with it.

Id say hesitating yes require a proper confirmation. If the person doesn't look sure to you, ask them ?