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[–] GhostFace@lemmy.today 2 points 6 days ago

Problem. Of the two transgirls I've ever liked, one instead likes really big women and the other is ace.

[–] IPeaceInYourFace@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago

Where do I find these women?

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 90 points 1 week ago (1 children)

or let a trans girl give you head... you know either way is cool. maybe both?

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 53 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] cloudskater@piefed.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

Nah, the bottom gets it first cuz I want that throat relaxed.

[–] TerrabyteMarx@quokk.au 65 points 1 week ago (7 children)
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[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 45 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Unless she's not into it, of course. I had a partner who didn't want anything to do with her penis. Any sense of pleasure was overridden by the discomfort of her dysphoria.

As an alternative, she would love to be tied up and given sensory play. Ice cubes, wax, paintbrushes, roller pins, anything to produce a novel sensation would drive her wild. So yeah, your mileage may vary. Either way, bring some pleasure to the trans partner in your life today! :)

[–] TheFresh16@lemmy.world 25 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Came here to say this. From the community of trans girls I know, I would guess that at least 25% can't stand acknowledgement of their bits without dissociating from dysphoria.

This makes me feel a lot better abt myself, tbh. I always thought I was just an extreme outlier for what I wanted done to me, and to know it's fairly common feels better. I need very specific care to not be overwhelmed by dysphoria.

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[–] cupcakezealot@piefed.blahaj.zone 42 points 1 week ago (2 children)

i mean just give a trans girls flowers too.

[–] SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 week ago

Yeah, head is nice don't get me wrong, but I'll take flowers, friendship, transition help, money. Yknow things that are actually meaningful. C'mon y'all, I'm not just a dick to suck.

[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Personally, I'd prefer head. Or a couple hours of Guilty Gear 1v1, even better

Edit: Strive, on the EU servers (Greece), with a mid Nago that I'd just love to play against someone who'd destroy me, freely

Hit me up on Dms if you wanna spar!

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[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 40 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Quokka@quokk.au 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Give a trans head

Any trans person, just do it.

[–] cloudskater@piefed.blahaj.zone 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I do not want to behead a trans person for this purpose.

[–] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Give a billionaire head to a trans person

[–] cloudskater@piefed.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago

You bet I'm down for that

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[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 1 week ago

I'm happy to do my part o7

[–] pmk@piefed.ca 28 points 1 week ago (3 children)

In all seriousness, how would one ask about this? Like just saying "Hey, you're trans right? Do you probably need head bad rn?" seems a bit creepy?

[–] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 32 points 1 week ago (1 children)

"Hey what Linux distro do you use?"

If it's Nix OS you're golden. If it's Arch there's a decent chance.

[–] pmk@piefed.ca 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If they say Debian, is that a clue they aren't into brief encounters but want more of a long term relationship?

[–] JLock17@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago

They expect long term support at the bare minimum.

[–] stray@pawb.social 28 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think you need to go around in a shirt something like:

🌈 PRIDE DEALS 🦄

THIS MONTH ONLY 🔥🔥🔥

TRANS GIRLS GET THEIR DICKS SUCKED FREE!!

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[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Trans ppl are way more receptive to outwardly flirtatious approaches

Edit.: Speaking about my lived experiences, trans ppl have been easier to approach.

[–] transarchistcuddleslut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Trans people are not a monolith. We are people and have varying preferences.

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago

Oh, I thought you all met in the teen titans tower to discuss how to act

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[–] Lehmuusa@nord.pub 24 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Are there... Ulterior motives to this post?

[–] not_IO@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

there is just one very obvious motive to this post

[–] Omnipitaph@reddthat.com 7 points 1 week ago (6 children)

If you happen to be literally anywhere in the pacific northwest of the USA, you're in driving distance...

I wish I lived in PNW. The southeast is... less friendly to trans folks.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

There are some really horny people in this post.

It's me. I'm horny 🤣

[–] Omnipitaph@reddthat.com 2 points 6 days ago

Saxophone noises

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[–] OrganicMustard@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

Want to give head

[–] spacegoat@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago

My body is willing but my game is weak

[–] sobchak@programming.dev 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Lemmy is horniest social media I've ever used.

[–] greencoil@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 12 points 1 week ago (2 children)

You don't use much social media, then? Is this a joke? Its literally a twitter screenshot lol.

Lemmy noticeably has very little queer horny posting. I feel like even Tumblr, with its site wide porn ban, is more publicly horny than Lemmy.

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[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 week ago

They not home rn 😔

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

Ok fine but you're staying tied up in my basement can't be spoiling ya too much

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago

hell yeah who wants head?

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I need to eat more designer pussy

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[–] TotallyWorthLife@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I'm not one to receive it, but if I had my gf with me I would give her TwT

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