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[–] Setiyeti93@lemmy.ca 12 points 22 hours ago

Can confirm. Am pan. Am also stuck on the ceiling

[–] Kraiden@piefed.social 5 points 18 hours ago
[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 21 hours ago

Adding to the flame war: it’s not even clear if it is about sex or gender for both

[–] alapakala@quokk.au 4 points 20 hours ago

Can confirm.
too pan for bis

[–] SharkAttak@kbin.melroy.org 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Easy: are they exceedingly attracted to a loaf of bread?

[–] renormalizer@feddit.org 4 points 19 hours ago

Or to cast-iron skillets?

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 3 points 20 hours ago

but what happens when the bisexual reaches the ceiling or the pansexual reaches the ground

[–] Washedupcynic@lemmy.ca 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I thought bi was preferring both cis and/or trans males and females, while pan was cis or trans male/female as well as anyone presenting non binary. Like a true bisexual would not be into someone non-binary, while a pansexual would consider a non binary person as a partner.

You can be monogamous and also be pansexual. You can be bi, but also be polyamorous.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 8 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (1 children)

And here I've always heard that bisexual means the attraction to your own/same gender and attraction to opposite/different genders, so that would include non-binary folk.

[–] Washedupcynic@lemmy.ca 4 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

I love how both of us go down voted, but there is no discourse telling us how we are wrong, how we misinterpreted things. I spent some more time researching and the other thing that comes up is pansexual people are gender blind in terms of attraction, so it's a person by person basis when determining attraction. Any pansexual and or bisexual people want to weigh in and share their experiences.

I am a woman that is attracted to cis females, on two occasions trans men, and on one occasion a non-binary person genetically containing 2 x chromosomes. I have yet to experience attraction to a trans-woman or cis-man. What does that make me? I still consider myself a lesbian, and not a pansexual or bisexual.

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

In the end you define what label you feel most comfortable with. Do you really know that person’s chromosomes?

[–] Washedupcynic@lemmy.ca 3 points 18 hours ago

Yes, it was talked about between us.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 1 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I'm sorry, some of my stalkers are in here downvoting me and got you, too.

[–] Washedupcynic@lemmy.ca 1 points 19 hours ago

God damn, some people really need to find hobbies other than hating others on the internet. Sorry.

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