It happens, the 'did I miss a cue' can be brutal if it keeps replaying. Only real answer I know is being content with your own self and if someone also happens to fall into that same space all the better. People get so inundated with images of what's 'possible' which a good chunk of it's enhanced with selective posting and filters, so we get some unrealistic view of what a normal happy life is supposed to be.
As for the sending pics, shitty people aren't worth the brain space to stress over, you dodged a bullet there.
I guess I would take it being a US judge as a given. Not that this admin listens to our judges anyhow, bit I expect one from another country would hold even less sway.