Funny

They probably misconstrued "pick-up artists aside" as being very specifically about literal "pick-up artists" rather than as a generalized hitting on someone in public thing.

I do agree with them, though, in that it's very culturally dependent on how okay it is. I remember from a long time ago now one of those "kids today are always glued to their phones" memes where somebody just responded with a photo of a commuter rail car from the 50s where every single person in the photo was reading the newspaper, and I have a similar story from my dad about my grandfather: My grandfather worked in NYC for over 20 years and he commuted by train. During those commutes, he sat next to the same man, twice a day - on the way there and on the way back - for years, and only once in at least a decade did they ever speak to each other. "Are you finished reading that?" Those were the 5 words that man spoke to my grandfather, who handed him the paper he had finished reading, and they never exchanged another word again. I don't think they ever even looked at each other.

I would also add that it's a very extroverted thing to do, and not in the sense of social anxiety or something, but in the sense that introverted people burn mental and emotional energy in social interaction, and by trying to engage with a stranger in a random conversation, you might be using up the spoons they have that day. I'll talk to random people in public as well, but I keep it to one-off statements that people can either leave be or reciprocate with if they want. A joke about the traffic in trying to navigate the grocery store, that sort of thing. I'm very good at talking with people, I learned it from working a service industry job as a teen, to the point where I was basically the public face of a company, but I find it EXHAUSTING to do. I'm an introvert, pure and simple, and social interaction simply takes energy to do. At the end of the day, all I want to do is isolate myself so I can recharge and unwind.

Plus, there's the whole "women having to handle a man" aspect. Women have to treat men differently and behave differently to protect themselves when interacting with men (ones they don't know in particular), and so a random stranger trying to start up a conversation is A Situation that they have to analyze. It goes back to the "women would prefer to be in the woods with a bear" thing. Women would rather a random bear try to start a conversation with them in public, or something.