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[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 6 hours ago (5 children)

One time, my dad, fully serious, said to me that homosexuality didn't exist in nature outside of humans.

It was like finding out that you have a below average penis.

My stomach dropped in shame when I was so starkly faced with the mental faculties of one of my biological guardians I had been raised by. Was I staring at my limit?

What about those other kids, whose parents are educated and empathetic and who will ask real probing questions and can answer them? Will my facilities slow to a crawl soon, to keep pace with my genetic fate?

Are these fears so average that I should bow my head in the river, afraid to even express them, lest I be confronted by the entire history of humanity?

Maybe biological nature isn't everything, maybe fate isn't real and change is truly in our hands, ready to be molded, potentially even into chaos.

"Better stupid than dead", huh? It's staring right back at me, blankly, waiting for me.

[–] rothaine@lemmy.zip 1 points 29 minutes ago

Bring your dad to a pond and feed the ducks. If he can recognize drakes vs hens he'll figure it out soon enough.

[–] qaeta@lemmy.ca 5 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

One time, my dad, fully serious, said to me that homosexuality didn't exist in nature outside of humans.

Would just be like "Neither does fucking Bud Light dumbass!"

[–] astropenguin5@lemmy.world 1 points 17 minutes ago

Except homosexuality has been clearly proven in many cases outside humans.

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 hours ago

Fortunately for you, while there's definitely some genetic component to it, it's definitely not the only factor by any means. I've known some very intelligent people who believe some very dumb shit.

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 3 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

By writing this comment I think you’ve already got your answer. You seem very eloquent and you’ve got a mind that’s not afraid to go places. Don’t worry, you’ll be just fine.

[–] espurr@sopuli.xyz 2 points 5 hours ago

My dad is a flat earther