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Because women are in higher demand than men. That's the sad truth. Women do make the first move, maybe more than you realize, but they all tend to go for the same top 1% of men. If you aren't that, then you've gotta do some work, either to chase them or to become the top 1% that they chase. It's a sad reality but that's what it is.
I don't know if everyone has been paying attention to how things are trending and extrapolating, but the fact is a ton of men are looking at that scenario and saying, "eh I'm just done, I'm gonna stay home and enjoy the peace and quiet while it lasts. Less risky."
If that works for them then they can do that. I think if most left the house and tried chasing girls IRL rather than online that they'd be pretty successful once they practiced a bit. As an older man, young women seem a lot more thirsty than they ever were when I was young.
A lot of men think differently than women about relationships though. A lot of men would:
Fundamentally know they would be happiest with a woman who respects them and treats them softly and with love and treats the relationship as a partnership.
Concurrently, they would be happy to accept sex if it were freely offered with no risks (but there ARE very clear risks that sometimes make them balk at sex even being worth that anyway).
They believe that past behavior predicts future behavior. They see women that they would sleep with but never marry.
End result: the men willing to take the risk sleep with all the women they want to. Women all sleep with that shared small group of men. Those men don't commit, they have all the sex they want and never intended to commit. The men that would have committed were friend zoned, turned down, or ignored, took that at face value as they are not valued or in demand. Ultimately choose a peaceful life as a hermit enjoying whatever they can find happiness in. Hobbies, games, friends, etc.
Is selection bias a term or did I just make that up? Perhaps women get an incomplete understanding of men because they only interact with the men they choose to interact with. At minimum I know confirmation bias definitely comes into play with all these social interactions and assumptions. And men get an incomplete picture of women just from sheer lack of exposure. They only know what they see using what limited means of remote study. Social media, news, anecdotes from each other, etc.