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[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 22 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

Worse they can say is no, right?

[–] Digit@lemmy.wtf 1 points 11 minutes ago

No.

There are far far worse.

We're getting a divorce.

I'm calling the police.

Wait until you mother hears what you just asked.

etc.

;D

[If you think that's lame... I pulled my punch. Scared of saying the more monstrous things that could be said.]

[–] MeatPilot@sh.itjust.works 20 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

They could get scared and helicopter that shit all over the room and you. Like a Jackson Pollock painting.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 5 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

I expect no less account of experience from MeatPilot, themself

[–] fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I think worst case you end up with a piss covered wall.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 5 points 11 hours ago

Hey. Some times you have to trust

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 16 points 13 hours ago (3 children)

I dunno what man is saying no to their partner grabbing onto their junk

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 37 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

From what I've seen, boners and trying to piss don't play well together lol

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 14 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

They don’t. I will sometimes have to sit down and lean over to get mine aimed safely into the bowl when I wake up with a rager.

[–] NKBTN@feddit.uk 1 points 1 hour ago

A couple of times I've grabbed an empty toilet roll tube, put my bell-in, and tilted the tube down 45 degrees to funnel the wee into the bowl. It works, but the tube collapses toward the end

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 11 hours ago

Another lie pushed by Big Porn smh

I was expecting to be covered in a golden shower, not an intermittent stream because he kept getting hard again hahaha

[–] DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 4 points 9 hours ago

I agree. Maybe she's a bad aim. Still worth it.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 10 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Being 100% tmi real, in my experience people are poor judges of pressure and sensation on other bodies. I generally don't let my partners just go for it but maybe I'm an asshole

[–] deacon@lemmy.world 10 points 11 hours ago

Hey it’s your junk. Gotta have boundaries.