Within an hour of dropping my son off at junior kindergarten, I’m called to pick him up. The excitement of the first day of school quickly gives way to sadness and embarrassment. He was sitting on a chair in the office sucking his thumb while the secretary chastised him for misbehaving. I feel the need to chastise him, too; to signal we don’t condone whatever it is he did. But on the steps of the school after we leave the office, I kneel in front of him. I tell him he’s a wonderful boy. I promise him we’ll figure school out together.

It’s a promise I haven’t been able to keep.

My twin boys, now in Grade 5, have autism and complex needs. At one point, both of them were not attending school full-time because the public system does not support them.

These days, with one of my son’s schools, we’ve developed an “understanding.” I pick him up early. Sometimes earlier if I get the call. And I always get the call.

My body exists in a permanent state of readiness, waiting to be told my child is “having a hard day.” The euphemisms vary, but the message is always the same: get here. Every time I collect my boy, I see him as I did on that first day of JK: confused, overwhelmed, trying to comfort himself.

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[–] HellsBelle@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

It is up to the provincial government to properly fund the education of ALL children whether or not there are learning challenges or difficulties.

If the provincial government doesn't want to do its job properly they should step down from office.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 days ago

I fully agree with you, but what you said applies to so many things...

[–] Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

So instead if a public system that can work for a majority of students we have no system? Vouchers so students who don't have issues will have private schools but that still won't work for those who cannot navigate the current system?
I know teachers who have quit because of problem students. It isn't fair for them to have to work with a student who bites or punches them when they try to protect the rest of the students.
I feel bad for parents who have a child, or more, who don't fit in the mainstream education system, however trying to force them to fit isn't helping anyone. The child isn't learning and other children are having their education disrupted. We need real answers to the problem and integration doesn't seem to be a workable solution.

[–] dermanus@lemmy.ca 8 points 3 days ago

Integration is such a manipulative term too, with the connotations with segregation. Special classes have their flaws, but the status quo is not working.