Greentext

It's a cycle that both sides contribute to. This system is shit, some people step up anyways, some avoid it, most people do some combination of the two, but the ones that choose 100% escapism burden those around them because someone still needs to finance their basic needs, which takes an emotional toll. And any excuse about how hard it is is even more frustrating because it's not like it's easy for the ones they complain about it to, yet they are doing it for themselves and the NEET, but they (often) don't even want to keep trying for themselves.

Or even if it is incompetence and they aren't capable, a) it's impossible to know if that's even true or if it's malicious compliance and b) still frustrating when a lot of it is still pretty basic, since there's jobs at all levels where the main thing you need to do to succeed is just show up on time (or even just close for some of them).

Not to mention that it's often combined with an aggressively entitled attitude and/or lying about what they are doing in ways that can blow up in the face of whoever ends up being financially responsible for them.

And ultimately, between someone who has earned the NEET label and their family supporting them, the only one that can really fix the situation is the NEET. All the therapy and support in the world won't matter if they don't want to improve, but if they decide to truly try to get their shit together and not just excuse their way out of even attempting or sticking with it the moment it gets hard, they can also make progress on their own.

Not saying it's easy, but that's the whole point and the reason why families can get so frustrated with NEETs, as well as knowing that the rest of the world isn't going to care about them like they do and if anything happens to the caregivers, the NEET could end up homeless or dead but they sit around like mommy or daddy will take care of them forever.