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no it's legit. i'm male and i've had women do this to me when they come over to my place. more than once.
a lot of people have awful expectations/low opinions of the other sex and get super angry at you if you don't live up to their low expectations of them
you think the home thing is bad? try being a dude who is emotionally open and honest. every lady says she wants that, but the vast majority of them are totally repulsed by it. i even had a couple of girlfriends who were so convinced men are all therapy needing emotionally student idiots, that when i was try to communicate they would just ignore everything i said and then tell me how i really felt. because my words didn't register as legitimate to them, they were women, and they knew the truth about how all men can't really properly express their feelings and clearly what I was doing was fake/false/wrong or something. it was utterly insane.
people are really really really wedded to their beliefs about gender roles and gender behaviors, to the point of total delusion that when someone doesn't live up to their sexist expectations, they just reject the evidence in front of their face and make up a fake story to maintain the preexisting belief.
tl;dr: all men are emotional student idiots. if there is a man who isn't, he's not really a man, he's secretly gay. because gay men aren't men either, or something? i dunno.
This was reported as misogyny, and they're not wrong. Instead of removing this and sending you off to deal with it, I'm going to tell you why it is.
You are using your personal anecdotes of people you chose to ask out, to define half the population. How is this helping you? You are probably going to pick similar people because that's your type, then have expectations that it will be different.
I struggled with this for a while. A woman saying she wants emotional honesty does not mean she swears to still find you attractive regardless of what you reveal. She just has a feeling of unease and wants that to go away. So, reassure while maintaining sophistication and intrigue.