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Is your next post going to be in a baking comm asking people if they have considered just buying a loaf at the grocery? Its an important life lesson to get early that its OK that other people have different tastes and priorities than you do.
There is a great book on this called the 'The Let Them Theory' by Mel Robbins. Stop wasting energy on things you can't control and stop comparing yourself to other people.
She stole that whole bit from someone else's poem. Check it out.
That's a shame. I was unaware of that. Still....a good read with some good advice.
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That's an unnecessarily rude response. Even in the baking community, it should be fine to ask what goes into their decision to bake bread, or why they choose to bake bread instead of spending their time baking other things instead. Even if he already made up his mind, it's fine to be curious about the motivations others.
He didn't tell you what you can or can't do, or what you should or shouldn't do. He didn't jellyfin is bad or that self hosting in general is bad. He wasn't rude.
You say it's an important life lesson to get that it's ok for other people to have different tastes and priorities, but it's also healthy to ask people about those tastes and priorities.
Y'all looking for a reason to be mad