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Oh no
anyway...
Oh no, someone voicing an opinion besides "people should be endlessly catered to and those people should never make an effort to cater to others" how shocking right?
It seems like you don't know what it's like to be neurodivergent or have a disability.
People who are different or disabled can go their entire lives not being catered to, while constantly being told their entire lives to adapt every aspect of their being to simply be allowed to participate or fit in (mask), and still meet extreme discrimination and exclusion - even though there are supposed to be protections for disabled people and employers promise extra hard to not discriminate in every job posting.
Think solid barriers to employment, education, etc. all because it's annoying for people with little problems adapting to society to give them a little bit of consideration and support, or at the very least to not discriminate against them.
This is the most irritating part for me. I tried for most of my life to be normal and not only was my life miserable, I ultimately failed to hide my quirks enough to be accepted. Only by embracing my weirdness have I found acceptance, as people like "quirky and confident" more than "shy and awkward"
I'm trying to get to that point myself and stop masking so much! I feel that you are 100% right too, I believe people love authenticity.
When people see somebody who is relaxed and accepts themselves, they are more likely to be relaxed and accepting as well.
Thanks for sharing 💚
Displays of consideration can go so far in bridging these gaps. Ask your questions, but by prefacing with a statement like "I just want to understand this rule better" or "Out of curiosity" or something like that can make the questions much more palatable to neurotypicals.