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[–] DanceMomsSavedMe@lemmy.zip 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Yeah I'm originally from a very notorious southern state for racism and the nextdoor app was like that there too.

Hated it. I've not been in it ever since. Also, a lot of people being very nosy about weird stuff.

I thought it was going to be like a community app, a good way to meet people. How naive I was.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 13 points 3 days ago (4 children)

Too many people tell me they prefer small towns because people are "nice". In my experience, absolutely not. They may say hello to you, but that does not mean they are nice people. My experience aligns with yours. Selfish, ignorant, nosy. After you leave they'll immediately start talking about you, your family, and anything else gossipy. Not much else to do in a small town.

Say what you will about big cities but no one gives a damn about you and its great. Someone rude to you? You can literally never see them again. It's wonderful.

[–] mangobanana@discuss.online 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I grew up in a town of 2500, and after having to spend 3 months there due to my father being in hospice and then dying in the last year, I would NEVER live there again. Holy shit. The only plus for my mom now is that like 25 family members live within a 2 mile radius.

I can honestly say I lived through that exact scenario (except not father, but another family member) recently. Fully agree, horrid experience. So many people come to you and act like they care, but they just want the latest gossip. I'm sorry about your father.

[–] phutatorius@lemmy.zip 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I grew up in the city because my parents couldn't stand the gossip, conformism and backbiting of small-town life. I've been to where they came from (there are still relatives there), and getting the hell out of there was one of the best things they ever did for me.

I'm in a small city now. The neighbors are friendly but not over-curious and the crime rate is minimal. I live near the center so everything I need is within a 20-minute walking radius. And the last time there was a racist demonstration here, the counter-demo was five times larger and the fascists got back on their bus and fucked off: they weren't even locals, they were a rent-a-mob. That matters greatly to me since we're an ethnically diverse family. If those assholes get the upper hand, they'll be coming for us.

It sounds like you found a very nice place to live! Congrats to you!

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Say what you will about big cities but no one gives a damn about you and its great. Someone rude to you? You can literally never see them again. It’s wonderful.

Lol what, i have lived in a big city my entire life and had plenty of nosy weird neighbors who got up in my shit because they were old and bored. and just random strangers come up to me and start trying to start a fight or whatever because they are just weird and miserable.

my life in a small town, was relatively free of any of that. i remember in my hometown nobody ever bothered us. it was glorious.

[–] mangobanana@discuss.online 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You must have lived in a very different small town then I grew up in because everybody in the town knew what time you took a shit

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

a mean, a significant chunk of the pop was too drunk or strung out on opiates to really care about anything... so that helped.