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If I can just interject here. My hangup with the analogy is that being black doesn't inherently change your behavior when placed amongst white people (in a vacuum. Obviously racism makes that moot.) But being gay would absolutely change your behavior compared to the straights you're around due to attraction.
I dont think that's what was getting his brother confused, but maybe it was part of it. I'm honestly at the point where I'm giving up on analogies, because people either get hung up on useless details like me, or they willfully ignore the entire premise.
I can clarify a few things.
Being gay doesn't mean you're attracted to every single person of the group for which you're attracted. ... Just like straight people aren't attracted to every person of the group for which they are attracted so plopping a gay(affectionate) in the middle of a bunch of straights(affectionate) is going to do nothing (in a vacuum as you described).
The brother in law in question believes in the manosphere christian nationalist drivel that our area has been peddling for decades. The Alex Jones, Joe Rogan, oan listening type who doesn't think about anything beyond what he's told. Zero understanding of anything beyond surface level if it doesn't fit his narrow understanding of the world
Self reflection isn't his strong suit. Nor is researching information and looking for sources.
True, but my point was that it was a higher likelihood than zero. Pedantic I know.
Yeah but it also detracts from the point instead of focusing on the main issue at hand, it causes people to go down rabbit holes looking at minutia. Like focusing on a scratch on a fender when the engine is on fire. While it's something that is true, it's not the important part of the conversation.