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At least they were doing so in the interest of helping her. You were attacking her for no fucking reason beside your own ego.
Yes, I did what it took to help her and it worked. The police here are mandatory high-school-educated and very good at de-escalation, and in a situation of "her word against mine" (she hadn't started carrying out the plan; they didn't want proof from me, that can be easily faked) they couldn't do anything to her legally. All of the 20+ Czech cops I've interacted with in my life were reasonable and didn't abuse their positions to be mean or angry or go beyond what protocols allow them to do.
I wouldn't have done it if I could have visited her but my bigoted Mom wouldn't let me (it's only a few days later that my therapist told her she's overly controlling, which made her relax this). I consulted Mom (she's still quite close to me) and she said it was the right thing to do. My psychiatrist, psychologist and German teacher, who I confided in, all agreed.
Also, of course I wouldn't if I had contacts to Miisha's close ones who could call her or visit and offer hugs for example, which the police can't do.
By the way, neither Miisha nor me considers this "doxxing". I don't know her address and couldn't find it out if I tried. The police found it in their database and kept it secret from me. If I had known her brother's phone number and used it to make him visit her, without me showing him the posts or him telling me her address of course, would you consider this doxxing?