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Incoherent rambling
Why don't I just leave. I don't bring anything positive to the world anyway. I'm just a man and that's all I'll ever be. Neither HRT nor surgery will save me. People say to love myself, but how can I do that, when I'm the one responsible for this destruction and mutilation of my body that we call "normal puberty"? Why did I ever put off starting HRT...Now's too late. Always has been. Now it's impossible for me to ever look at myself and see a girl. Passing is a fucking joke, I can't seriously look in the mirror without simultaneously bursting into laughter and tears. I'm just a monster and yet I still somehow think I deserve to be called and adressed as a woman. I ruined this body. This is all my fault.
I ruin everything I touch. Every relationship, every friendship I ever had, every community I ever belonged to. My only two irl friends don't even talk to me anymore. I haven't even been able to get off my ass and go get therapy. All I do is take estrogen and hope somehow I'll get to be a "real girl" one day without putting in any effort of my own. I'm the worst kind of pathetic. I'm an unlovable, obnoxious, ugly dumb piece of shit that has no value as a person. Sometimes I even wonder if I'm a person at all.
Maybe in another timeline I'm happy. I don't need SRS or extensive FFS or even HRT. Or maybe I do need HRT, but I actually started at a reasonable age, before the damage became irreparable. Whatever that timeline is, it isn't this one. I'm so fucked. I hate myself so much. There's no one in this world I hate more than myself. I don't even hate other people, just this thing that I am. I hate living in this body. I hate living this life. I hate being whatever fucking monster this is. I'm so tired of it. I wish I'd never been born.
Hi Miisha, it's clear that you're hurting now and have been hurting for a long time, and I can't pretend to know how you feel, but I'd like you to know that you and all the other girls here are inspiring to baby trans me.
It sucks to be given a body you don't want. And it's easy to get stuck in that spiral of wishing things had gone differently. But dwelling on things that can't be changed does nothing but waste energy.
And saying "fuck you" to the universe and living as the person you want to be despite it all? That's just about the coolest thing someone can do. And you're doing it! That's fucking awesome and it makes me feel like I can do it.
We all love you 🩵🩷🤍