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Here you go. Now everyone here lives longer.
NSFW
Flat, underdeveloped, bad picture, ugly...but lifespan-increasing. Enjoy, I guess...
Thank you for your service, queen.
No problem <3
I’m flattered to have been graced by Miisha
Im sure the huge amount of dms you're gonna get was your point, so congrats. But god that idea sound so exhausting.
Sometimes women just wanna show off their tits and it's not about getting DMs or whatever.
Yeah but like what do you even do when you get yourself in that situation. I mean i say that as a guy who has no clue, but still it sounds exhausting.
....you ignore the thirsty men. What do you mean?
Idk honestly i just imagine hundreds of dms constantly coming. And if you get normsl ones it seems like a huge hassle trying to filter through them.
It's lemmy, I figure here there's less dms for such things than elsewhere. Personally I didn't get dms in response to when I posted my boobs. A fair number of comments though. I've gotten dms for doing it on other sites, but not super many. Though I'll acknowledge my username probably plays a role in that. And yeah you can just ignore them. Or erp, or whatever you want with them.
Oh hahaha well. Honestly there aren't as many DMs sometimes as you'd imagine (as a femme person who has posted nudes before). And posting nudes isn't the best way to find sincere men in the DMs. Sometimes the attention is kinda nice though, but it's never been the main motivator for me. Exhibitionism and the thrill of doing something naughty is way more motivating than men being thirsty haha.
Maybe im just to old anymore but i remember back in the day i felt something similar. But im ancient at the ripe old age of 33. Honestly figuring out how to reply to you was not easy, i couldnt help but try to not come off as some creep even though i did check your post for nudes out of curiosity. I failed but whatever. And i saw your other comment and no matter what ill always be an ally!
Hahah I try to keep my nudes separate from my feminist killjoy accounts ;)
I appreciate that you put some thought into replying to me and I'm sorry that I was a little blunt initially. We're cool :)
Naw im actually a huge bitchy asshole. I might mean well but i just say some of the stupidest things and i deserve all the criticism i get. But its nice becoming cool with someone out of no where. Everyone likes making new friends.
I doubt it. People already know me. I'm trans (unrelated) and really, extremely unattractive, but everyone already knows that. There are girls here who are literally cis. Not me. I'm immune to the creepy dms.
I dont know you. At least i dont think. Yet im a cis straight dude, unrelated, that thinks your attractive. So like the velma chick i wanna say you do you girl! Sorry if i was an ass, i didnt mean it.
Edit Saw the rest of yalls response. I hope well for you. Maybe we'll interact again on here in the future without me being insensitive.
Aww I love this comment. Thanks for being supportive <3
Putting aside the fact that you are attractive, you’re also totally allowed to do whatever the fuck you want without being accused of doing it to get men’s attention.
Thanks Velma ❤️
To be honest, me and my bf had a fight. I'm trying to break free now and I really need a break from all attention from men. I might not be into them that much after all...
Ooof it's been rough over there for you, I'm sorry to hear it! Take that break, lean into dating yourself (you know your favorite snacks, shows, snuggles, and allllll that, treat your self like the queen you are, babe), and you do you unapologetically.
Thanks girl 💜