Its very reductive to think "patriots" = pride and "nationalists" = superiority. How does that square against the Vietnamese struggle against colonialism? Because that was a nationalist movement made up of patriots.

The "us" vs "them" kind of matter given the context don't they? Colonialist nationalism had an us vs them but the us is colonialists... And the them are the colonized. Liberatory nationalism obviously is the opposite, where the us is the colonized and the them are colonizers.

Like, you seem to be operating under in these broad strokes that collapse all these contexts into a flat binary. That doesn't really seem like a useful tool for analysis.