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I'm looking into a few different chat servers, probably just for family on my tailnet.

I like the idea that simplex allows video chat. My server is a repurposed optiplex 3060so I think it should be able to handle it. Is anyone doing this? Do you think it's worth it?

Should I be considering other options like XMPP?

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[–] Lemmchen@feddit.org 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

If you like SimpleX, you can host a server and configure your clients to use that. You don't use only your server though, so I don't know if this will satisfy your requirements.

[–] foremanguy92_@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Lemmchen@feddit.org 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Because at least when you use their private routing feature messages go: sender -> custom sender's server -> custom receiver's server -> receiver

So unless sender and receiver are configured to use servers under your control, there will be at least one foreign server involved.

To be fair I'm not sure how that works, when you don't use their private routing feature.

https://simplex.chat/blog/20240604-simplex-chat-v5.8-private-message-routing-chat-themes.html#private-message-routing

[–] foremanguy92_@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago

Oh yeah sorry I thought that both ends configured custom self hosted servers. But yeah in the "normal" case the self hosted server is "only" contributing to the network