I feel like a lot of this is due entirely to the shift away from generational/communal living.

If you live with a bunch of other people, and those people actually contribute to the environment you all live in, the daily tasks get split up such that they are much easier to maintain, for everyone.

Say you’ve got a set of parents, 2 kids and their spouses, and whatever offspring under that. Sure you need a bit more space than your average single family starter home offers, but if only one house is needed, that frees up a lot of money elsewhere so I feel like that’s an OK trade.

But beyond the added space, you could have one person who cooks, one who cleans common areas, one who does dishes, one who does laundry, one who pays bills and manages appointments, and one who makes sure the kids are handled. Rotate those jobs as desired, or assign them to whomever likes doing them most of the time, and all the big major draining tasks are handled. EZ.

With individualized living, everything falls to one or two people, and yeah that’s an absolute ton. Especially if one of the two can’t or won’t pull their weight.

Please put a censor on the word ad*lt! I was on the train and when I saw this I had to start furiously masterbating. Everyone else gave me strange looks and were saying things like “what the fuck” and “call the police”. I dropped my phone and everyone around me saw the uncensored a-word. Now there is a whole train of men masterbating together at this one word. This is all your fault, you could have prevented this if you had just censored ad*lt.

The one thing I realize about these ToDO lists, is that they are written by others for you. Designed perfectly to exploit and trap the average person, until their life passes.

It's hard to pivot, if you are already in a wage-slave job, it is a trap. However, if you can eliminate your dependencies, say no to people who drain you, and create just enough room to find another job, you can finally start living.

Censorship=downvote

freaking and burn are bad words now?

Its a perspective issue. I always hear complaints from teenagers and people in their 20s and i felt the same when i was that age but its really not that bad. I dont feel like chores take up a significant amount of my free time. Once I have kids though I expect this to change because now im cleaning up after kids who dont do the proper steps to minimise later work.

Most relatabke shit ever.

I can. not. keep. up.

It gets better if you achieve "partner" then you can share the endless to-do-list.

They literally teach you this in highschool science. They teach you that the universe is a dynamic system driven by entropy. They teach you that equilibrium, i.e. a state of stability in a dynamic system, is achieved when the rate of structural formation equals the rate of destruction, e.g. bonds forming/breaking, population birth/death, organizing/disorganizing one's room... Managing while not burning out is stability.

The classic question of "when would any of this be applicable in the real world" is intended to be a critique of how school curriculums can be dated or out of touch with chages in how the world works. It also highlights the often understated goal of a good education--shaping students into people who have the fundamental tools and the mindset to actively answer that crucial question for themselves.

Well, stability is doing the same thing every day, so...

Something I think we don't talk about too much that has additionally fallen to the throes of Late Stage Capitalism is the dissolution of nuclear and extended families, as well as the normalcy of shared households.

Before, the everyday tasks of any one domicile could be reasonably expected to be split up amongst its cohorts. Kids do their chores, dad mows the lawn, mom does the wash, nana does the cooking, auntie takes the kids to school/shopping, or your housemates help out, etc etc.

But most of this generation is living in isolated pods, single-serving everything. You are solely responsible for the cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping, studying, working, running to the bank, filing taxes, trip planning, car maintenance, home repairs, and your godddamn mental health. Of course it's too much work for just one person, but it's become so normalized by now that people hardly even notice there's a problem, much less any viable solution to it. Instead, we all resign ourselves to being "tired all the time", physically and emotionally, and not knowing why.

I just tell myself it's my executive dysfunction but.. I think it's just too much for Everybody

It wouldn’t be as bad if there were things to look forward to.

Fuck Reddit and Fuck Spez.

Compare your life to that of a caveman: constantly watching out for predators, fire risks, intrusive insects, maintaining an insufficient shelter, tanning and hiding your clothing out of necessity, sleeping fretfully, and of course spending a good portion of your day scrounging for food whilst keeping the kids alive.

Our ADHD brains were in overdrive much of our history to cope with the dangers and stress of living.

Nowadays we have systematic soceital dangers to focus on, but we forget that our minds are far less distracted by real threats, and so we seek arbitrary topics to hyperfixate upon

Just breathe, write lists, you got this.

Do like the boomers did and spawn so you can make children legally do your chores.

Not as serious as your problems OP but I'm also feeling that, man. It's just one thing after another

Adult life is a rollercoaster of shutting down and burning out.

Get a significant other, share the pain.

It's on my to-do list.