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[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (3 children)
[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

You are, even if backwards medical systems prevent you from living as one.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 23 hours ago

nunu they allow me to.,,.. but thanksi either way <3

[–] bdonvr@thelemmy.club 2 points 19 hours ago

Gender is a fuck

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[–] Gorgritch_umie_killa@aussie.zone 1 points 16 hours ago

Whats the line for? I have a sudden urge to queue and i think i like it.

[–] Interstellar_1@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 21 hours ago (1 children)
[–] DickFiasco@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

Hot take: he's not religious at all, just does the sign to get some action he can film for "later".

Keep up the good work, ladies!

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)
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[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago (4 children)

So, what’s the deal with teens wearing tails? It’s become a common thing near me

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

I was a teen in the early-to-mid-2000s and I wore a tail often

[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 0 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

‘Bout 10 years early on that 30 year fashion cycle

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Soft furry and pet play being fun?

[–] name_NULL111653@pawb.social 1 points 23 hours ago

Is cute and fluffy and you can pet and comfy uwu

[–] hopesdead@startrek.website 1 points 1 day ago

I saw multiple instances this year of teens wearing those inflatable arm cuffs for swimming that you give little kids.

[–] LadyMeow@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 22 hours ago

Who are the cuties and why do they need to repe….. oh. Now I see the fuckface

[–] Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca -1 points 22 hours ago (3 children)

Is that a leash?

Gonna go against the grain and say that's a bit of a no-go, regardless of how much of an ass that guy is being. Get rid of that and I see nothing wrong here though.

[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 17 hours ago

What's wrong with a little public BDSM to piss off conservatives?

[–] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca -2 points 21 hours ago (8 children)

From my understanding leashes are a sexual thing no?

Nah, kink is based and trying to censor it from queer culture is sex negative.

[–] cadekat@pawb.social 3 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

So what if they are? Seeing someone being led around on a leash isn't gonna hurt anyone.

[–] Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca -2 points 20 hours ago (4 children)

It's common decency? I'm not going to judge someone for what they wear in public, but when it comes to sexual stuff, it's just a matter of being mindful of others.

Not a "think of the children" or "I'm uncomfortable with queer people existing" sorta deal with what I'm saying either, making sure my words don't get twisted, but a leash to me gives the same vibes as say, a couple having an intense makeout session on the bus. Like do you need to make this public?

This a minor nitpick here, I know, just worried something like that gives fuel to the narrative jackwad with the sign is pushing.

[–] cadekat@pawb.social 0 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Oh god, I didn't assume you're anywhere near the dickwad in the picture. You're all good on that front!

My point is, well, so what if two people are aggressively making out? What's inherently wrong with that?

[–] Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca 0 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (2 children)

Thanks for that.

If I'm sitting on a busy bus for example, and two people, a couple, sit in front of me and start making out with some tongue on tongue action, I'm going to be disturbed. I'm not comfortable with that, and I didn't consent to seeing that.

People have their kinks and sexually intimate acts that they're into. Consent on both parties is important, but what's important as well is the consent of people around you in seeing that. A regular kiss, hug, or other purely romantic or platonic show of affection you don't need other people's consent for, so a person claiming "consent" when gay people hold hands or kiss in front of them is just a bigot.

For the same reason I wouldn't send a picture of kink art I know a friend isn't into without their consent, I also wouldn't indulge in my kinks in public where I know most people won't be into it, as they didn't consent to, for example, seeing me on a leash in this case (not my thing, hypothetical application of the pic).

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[–] FlexibleToast@lemmy.world 2 points 21 hours ago

That's the only sexual thing you see in that picture?

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[–] cadekat@pawb.social 1 points 22 hours ago
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