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Cross-posted from "Bully {12 images} (DoodlesHeidi)" by @Samdell@lemmy.eco.br in !comics@lemmy.blahaj.zone
And then they had lots and lots of lesbian sex (?)
this post was submitted on 15 Sep 2025
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A few years ago, I was working in a warehouse for a couple months and had a colleague who worked there around the same time. We were working together pretty much all the time.
One day when we were bored out of our minds, we were telling random stories from our lives and she was like, back in middle school we would bully our teacher, that was great.
I was genuinely speechless. I wanted to rebut something, but yeah, just genuinely appalled that she would tell that with such pride, too. But also really confused that she would tell it to a guy who's been bullied all his life, seemingly expecting me to celebrate the bullying.
I did eventually forgive her, because clearly she was just a fucking dumbass tugging along in the bullying and did not actually see the targets to initiate the bullying. But it took until our last day there that I understood the extent of it.
We were helping two folks and I was the tallest among us four while we had to stack packages up high, so I was putting in extra effort to not slow us down and I was sweating.
Anyone with a brain would have been thankful towards me, but not those folks. They had to bolster their lack of self-esteem by punching down, by mocking me for sweating.
And yeah, this time it was my lady friend who was speechless. I think that's when she understood that I was a target. That she should've been bullying me all along, since she enjoys it so much.
But she's also this really sporty girl, so she really did not understand the problem with sweating. Nor this whole fucking situation. I feel like that's when she put together how fucking dumb bullying is.
But I could also tell that she was trying to side with me, which was probably a novel situation for her entirely, to have to defend against bullies. I still remember her eyes shifting back and forth as she was trying to put all these thoughts together and rebut something. Bless her.
I can tell Ephera spends a lot more time sweating than you two, look how big his muscles are. At least we've got one athletic guy around here
Thanks, I cringed.
Oh! I love this story and i love seeing it out in the wild. 🥰
It's honestly really sad and it gets to me. Tbh, i was on both sides of this. There are people I've apologized to and also people i haven't forgiven.
Kids are such shitbags, it's a shame that's when we're also so impressionable.
I remember running into a girl I knew in grade school at a party when we were in our 20s. She was often the butt of jokes back in school because she dressed weird and liked odd stuff. At the party, I took the opportunity to apologize for teasing her, because I was sure I did. But to my amazement, she remembered me as the only nice boy to her She remembered a time that I told her I liked her rain boots. She said that it was the nicest thing she remembered about those years and she was excited to tell me when she recognized me.
Funny how life works like that.
Woav... the last one hit hard...
I hope that last panel doesn't causes her bond to collapse :/