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Discord was already succumbing to enshitification. Now with their intention to be owned by Wall Street, that trajectory will certainly accelerate at warp speed once the change of hands happens.

Anyone already get ahead of this and find a solid alternative?

Right now I'm on the fence between Element for Matrix, and Revolt. Both seem to have their pros and cons and I can't find a clear "winner".

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[–] pory@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)

it's Element/Matrix if we're lucky. Revolt is just another Discord - surely this single company will last! With Element/Matrix being an open protocol, it won't be a "platform" you have to leave when it goes corporate.

[–] ParetoOptimalDev@lemmy.today 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Sadly I found out yesterday:

Matrix is not a community-based software, it was born [00] in Amdocs [01], a multinational corporation founded in Israel.

https://hackea.org/notas/matrix.html

Many were claiming its impossible to get contributions merged as well.

I would be happy to find out this information is wrong or outdated.

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[–] kitnaht@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Revolt is F/OSS

https://github.com/revoltchat/

It's not just a company with a clone of Discord, all the server back end, etc is open.

[–] renegadespork@lemmy.jelliefrontier.net 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yes, which is good, but the lack of federation is a deal-breaker. It means that you either:

  1. Use their servers - This requires entrusting them with your communities, just like Discord.
  2. Host your own private instance - You can control it, but the lack of federation means it'll be isolated from communicating with other communities. This makes it really difficult to convince people to use your self-hosted servers.

Until Revolt adds a way for different instances to federate, Matrix is really the only other option.

[–] aleq@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

My experience with Matrix is that the federation itself is a deal breaker. I have a pretty beefy server and good connection which was getting ddosed by running Matrix and timing out on so many requests for avatars/profiles etc. Maybe I did something wrong, but the whole experience rendered me quite skeptical to the viability of it as a federated chat.

That said I've had nothing but good experiences using it with big servers set up by pros.

I get why Federation can cause issues (most of the time it's moderation related), but why would an extra option be a deal-breaker? Federation can always be disabled on a per-domain basis if you prefer. In fact, I'd argue it's best practice to only allow domains on a case-by-case basis to prevent spam and abuse.

On the converse, you can't enable Federation on a platform that doesn't have it.

[–] Forester@pawb.social 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Honestly, I am ready to go straight back to TeamSpeak.

I miss hosting my own server and having full access and control over it

I used to just host it on a piece of shit. 2003 Dell XP machine I put Ubuntu on

[–] Bahnd@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Hell yah, TS3 crew all the way. (Or TS5 for the zoomers...)

My nerds herd recently also set up a cluster of Matrix Synapse servers so we got our little "We have Telegram at home" set up. Getting non-tech people to accept that this is how to find me has been tricky without sounding like a digital prepper.

[–] msage@programming.dev 1 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Way too few mentions of Jitsi.

I use it with friends, it has good server config, and I'm pushing it on businesses.

[–] Lumiluz@slrpnk.net 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Explain more of this Jitsi, sounds interesting for my business

[–] msage@programming.dev 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It's voice and video calling with chat and screensharing. I intend to use it for a language school. It's extendable, for instance you can also self-host a whiteboard, where everyone can draw. You can see the drawing in real time, which is good for asian languages, where direction of the stroke is important.

Free, open-source, packaged in Debian, runs without issues, used it with friends for multi-hour voice chats during gaming nights.

On the server you can configure things like FPS for screenshare. I have yet to adjust that and try streaming video/game through it.

[–] Lumiluz@slrpnk.net 1 points 10 months ago

This does sound extremely useful and good.

I'd say the only issues software like this have is there's a lack of beginners guides to self hosting, so people either know too little and instantly have their server botted / hacked, or know enough to be too paranoid and afraid to set up their own server because they know of the risks.

As for me though, I'll probably look into implementing this and play around with it for our DnD group first.

[–] nammi@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)

they are owned by a Nasdaq-listed company. does that not the defeat the purpose when OP is trying to avoid Wall Street-ownership?

[–] cecilkorik@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago

Discord is a completely proprietary walled-garden that bans third-party clients to maintain full control AND (soon) has Wall-Street-ownership.

Jitsi is open-source built with multiple open protocols BUT has Wall-Street-ownership.

Neither is great, but these are two distinctly different situations.

[–] MilitantAtheist@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (3 children)

An alternative would need screen share, just voip is not enough any more.

[–] riquisimo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

What if you had OBS create a "camera" of your screen, and then use that through video chat?

[–] Raptorox@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

Ah, the good old "screenshare not working on wayland" workaround!

[–] Enkers@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

The problem is that performant screenshare (to multiple users) more or less requires infrastructure. That requires money, and it's impossible to compete on price with services that have the VC-enshitification model.

You can get around this in a few ways, but they're all tradeoffs that are in some way or other worse than discord.

  • P2P - sacrifice latency, reliability
  • direct multi-stream - sacrifice PC performance and/or bitrate
  • paid infrastructure - sacrifice money
[–] foggenbooty@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

I think P2P is still the way to go. Sure it's not perfect, but it's simpler and by it's very nature doesn't require the infrastructure we know will be a problem.

Plus, don't forget screen sharing in discord isn't very good as is (720p30) if you're not a paid user.

[–] mr_pip@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 10 months ago

honestly that isnthe only thing that stopd me from going all in on teamspeak/mumble

i just need a screen sharing solution (not necessarily built into those tools)

[–] stopforgettingit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

man I wish mumble had a better interface and a chat function, it could real FOSS competition with Discord, but the lack of a chat feature is holding it back

[–] thebardingreen@lemmy.starlightkel.xyz 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It's so much easier to set up and install than Matrix.

[–] splendoruranium@infosec.pub 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It’s so much easier to set up and install than Matrix.

Unbelievably so. Mumble is... basically one setup command. Don't even need a domain. And it needs absolutely no resources, can run on a Pi Zero.
Setting up my own Matrix server was honestly one of the most difficult things I've ever attempted in decades of non-professionally using computers and I'm still not sure I'd be able to properly take care of the installation if it breaks. Sooo many moving parts. All the federation-oriented projects that rely on adoption rates reaaaaally desperately need setup wizards before any other additional feature.

[–] thebardingreen@lemmy.starlightkel.xyz 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

I've set up Lemmy, Forgejo, Nextcloud and Mastodon. Forgejo is unbelievably easy, Mastodon and Lemmy both are complex but if you follow the instructions you get there pretty quickly.

Matrix is like "Follow a book of documentation, then when it doesn't work anyway, spend hours of your life troubleshooting a bunch of stuff that's NOT in the documentation. Why is this so hard?"

[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 2 points 10 months ago

You forgetting the part where the server starts using crazy resources because you entered the main Matrix chat. Does the server need to send you everything that's ever been said? Apparently yes

[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 10 months ago

Sounds like this is part of their business plan. Make hosting it so onerous, you're better-off using their servers, or paying them to do it for you.

[–] XiberKernel@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Honest question, but on a technical level isn’t discord basically IRC with some bells, whistles, emojis, and a some WebRTC Logic wrapped in electron with a large marketing budget? Throw in some cloud storage and a CDN for images. What am I missing? I’m not saying it’s “easy”, but I’m curious what it would take to build a solid streamlined FOSS alternative built on combining existing technologies.

Edit: I’m not familiar with the ecosystem… is the issue with existing FOSS bad UI and complicated onboarding? Missing features? Or is it simply a critical mass issue?

[–] dubyakay@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 months ago

Discord is not even necessarily Electron. I'm running it as Datcord, which is a Firefox based wrapper.

Discord has a searchble chat history, which is what sets it apart from IRC. Everything else can be emulated by modern IRC clients, such as emoji and embedded / unfurling images and link previews.

However imagine the chat history as if you had a bouncer that has 100% uptime and joined all possible chat channels from their creation, along with offering you search and buffer.

If not IRC, either Matrix or XMPP should be capable of this.

I'm fairly sure Discord's popularity was due to aggressive marketing, likely during their venture capital funding rounds. Something which FOSS does not have.

[–] echolalia@lemmy.ml 1 points 10 months ago

In addition to the replies you got already, discord has screen sharing/streaming. An experience kind of like zoom (I don't use it and dont see the appeal but maybe someone who does can elaborate more. My partner uses this feature sometimes).

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Time to dust off my old Mumble server!

[–] ErrorCode@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I was reading this thread and started looking for that app again.

[–] Rooty@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Mumla? Is it even still being updated?

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Mumla the ever living!

[–] Voroxpete@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

I've also been comparing Element and Revolt. Both seem really solid, both are open source and both are self-hostable. Hard to find any downsides there.

There's a discord server that me and a bunch of friends use as our main hangout. They've raised the prospect of bailing before things enshittify, and of course I've been tasked with pitching a replacement. For my money, Revolt is the way I'm going to go, specifically because it's basically a one for one clone of Discord. The people I'm pitching this to are a mix of technical and non-technical, so I think something that looks and feels like what they're used to will be the easiest transition.

It also feels like Element is geared pretty heavily towards being a replacement for Slack / Teams rather than a replacement for Discord. Their pitch seems a lot more focused on the enterprise market. Revolt seems more focused on gaming, casual hangout, that sort of thing.

I like Element a lot, but for me it doesn't feel like the right solution to this specific problem. But if I was pitching something to my work as a Teams replacement, Element is definitely the way I'd go.

[–] wampus@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago

Silly question perhaps, but I haven't tripped across it on the site for Revolt -- is there a relatively straight forward server version for self-hosting, or is it just that the source is on github and you can compile it in theory if you feel like goin through that process... ?

[–] Trihilis@ani.social 1 points 10 months ago

Man I wish my online friends were that easy to switch.

As soon as I mention Lemmy "what's wrong with reddit". As soon as I mention element "but everyone uses whatsapp/discord".

It suck that 90% of the people are stuck in their old ways and refuse to try anything new.

Hell I almost got banned for even mentioning lemmy once.

[–] GoodLuckToFriends@lemmy.today 1 points 10 months ago

Just remember your friend, https://discorch.org/

[–] assaultpotato@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago

I'm running a Matrix server with a FB Messenger bridge via mautrix-meta and that makes it a clear winner. Half my group chats have migrated entirely since I've set my close friends up with accounts in my server and they also use the bridge. The fact that people can slowly migrate chats without losing messages or groups is killer for adoption imo.

[–] astro_ray@piefed.social 1 points 10 months ago

What are your thoughts on xmpp? Recently I have come to like a lot and am pretty active with friends there.

[–] DieserTypMatthias@lemmy.ml 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Matrix is the way. It's federated and you can have your own server.

[–] candyman337@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago

https://spacebar.chat/ looks like it will eventually be good, it looks like it's in its infancy right now though

[–] Turnbomb@lemmy.ml 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Is there any option to stay on discord but better? Like vencord or something similar through Linux? I cannot imagine being able to get my friends off of discord ever.

[–] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

if discord is going public they don't need my turbo sub anymore

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Cancelled mine when they redesigned the mobile app anyway. I don't want a different interface on mobile vs desktop. I want a unified experience, which was their original purpose.

[–] xelar@lemmy.ml 1 points 10 months ago
[–] shym3q@programming.dev 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I've started my self-hosting journey having Matrix in mind - especially the Matrix bridges to cut off the need to use social media clients like Discord.

Today, I'm slowly convicting my friends to join my instance. So far, that's just one of the closest ones (still win for me).

I hope one day decentralization in social media would take off!

[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 1 points 10 months ago

I JUST managed to get my closest ring outside my family to join Signal.

We have a total of 7 people now.

I'd light up a server and host matrix/frendica/lemmy/mastodon/headscale in an instant if I thought I could get those 7 to join.

[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If you're self hosting, it's Revolt. But the default instance limits you to 20mb or something for files, which is a problem for me, personally.

[–] EncryptKeeper@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Revolt is also an annoyance to self host and the apps don’t support self hosted instances without you rebuilding them because the server is hardcoded.

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