I wish I could say this wasn’t my exact experience.
Tack on the lack of any romantic overtures and it’s pretty much how it went though.
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Must be America again, because I've hardly seen this in Denmark, Sweden, Germany, the Netherlands, France, or Spain (all countries I've either visited for extended periods of time, or lived in for portions of my life).
In my own family, however, I am the biggest brother, so they basically made me take care of a lot of the dirty tasks involving my siblings.
I'm Danish and can confirm. I grew up in a family full of babies and all the dads were always super involved. All the friends I have, who have little ones, the dads are involved. Only one of them has a situation where the mom is mostly on baby duty, but that's because dad has a job that requires him to travel for work for months at the time. When he's home, he's very much a hands on dad. Men love being dads. At least where I live.
The only times I hear about hands off dads is when it's America and Middle Eastern countries.
An issue with post-interstate USA is the ability to move away from family for education and work, also fragmented the extended family. Managing life, everything and a under-6 month old infant takes way more than two people. (Day care in many areas will accept an infant at 6 weeks, which while huge, is also problematic.)
I expect the only solution is get rich and help your kids with the grand kids. (UBI!)
None of this is an excuse to fuck off and not help. It is pathetic when men say "and I never changed a diaper". Hardly a parent at all at that point.
My brother-in-law is like that. Has the kids on the weekends (yup) and refers to it as "babysitting"... his own children. I know he must see all that I do for mine. It makes me nauseous, but I try not to get involved.
This is a severely under-discussed consequence of modern culture distancing family "connections".
Don't get me wrong, there's only about 4 people on my side of the extended family I actually miss, and 3 on my wife's side. That's being generous. But not having that reliable help if you don't have an absolutely amazing social group makes raising a kid through early childhood an absolute slog.
We don't have kids but between the 2 of us we have 1 parent that could get here the same day if needed. 2 who we could see if willing to spend a fortune on the train to very remote areas and a full days travel. 1 who we don't know what country they are in or even if they are still alive.
So any extra childcare would be entirely reliant on 1 person. We could move to change that to a different person but that hardly helps, there is no location that would be close to any 2 of our parents.
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Men, if you don't want kids, get your tubes tied. Most insurances cover it. Just do it. Don't wait for the "right time", just get it done.
I got snipped on a valentines day because they had lots of openings. This was after we had been together for three years and decided kids weren't an option for us. Haven't regretted it. Next year will be our 20th anniversary.
Redneck boomer shit, can't relate.
To OP or the person in the comic?
The comic itself