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[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 36 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Damn, discriminating against people with depression.

[–] ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I feel like this post is pressuring me into concluding my depression is actually dysphoria so I can continue interacting with the lovely people here. I mean, that's one way to get a nerdy girlfailure in my life...

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 2 months ago (2 children)

one cure for male loneliness is to turn it into female loneliness 🤔

[–] FerretyFever0@fedia.io 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It did for me :3

[–] cupcakezealot@piefed.blahaj.zone 33 points 2 months ago (1 children)

all terfs must be sacrificed to appease sappho

[–] DmMacniel@feddit.org 15 points 2 months ago

Glory to the roommate!

[–] Tiger_Man_@szmer.info 21 points 2 months ago
[–] Mac@mander.xyz 17 points 2 months ago (4 children)

I (privately) consider myself to be bi, even though I'm functionally straight, because i leave room for the possibility.

But, what happens when you get reported? 😬

[–] thefluffiest@feddit.nl 35 points 2 months ago

You will be judged by a jury of your queers

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

You get sent to the Owl House realm and experience what joy it is to live in a queer friendly area

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 13 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

That sounds great! I really like queer spaces, even if i don't really fit in.

[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 7 points 2 months ago

Honey if it don't fit, then you must use spit.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I consider myself to be bi even though I'm functionally gay, so I feel kinship with you. You're in the clear!

[–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 9 points 2 months ago

You two average out each other's bi-ness

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 months ago

I’m functionally ace, but I have gay thoughts today, so I guess it’s my safe day. Sounds like the other days I just don’t have to follow the rule

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 16 points 2 months ago (3 children)
[–] anise@awful.systems 23 points 2 months ago (1 children)

if you like them in a gay way yes

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

I do like to hold hands

[–] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 months ago

If you're a woman/nonbinary, yes!!

[–] SapphironZA@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Only if you have trouble acting lesbian.

[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 11 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Well damn. I'll be a good citizen and go self-report myself, do i get a good plea deal this way?

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

sorry, you get to go to the gay gulags with the rest of your kind

...even though this is a joke, it still feels wrong to say 😖

[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

What is happening at the Gay gulags? Are we forced to mine Gaysapphium in the Homoerotic Mines?

[–] thiscat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

i remember seeing a version on R%ddit that claims H#ts will be shot on sight

[–] KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml 7 points 2 months ago

Reject modernity embrace tradition: It ain't pride unless its a riot to remind the straights what liberty looks like

[–] orenj@leminal.space 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

oh, fun! any fellas wanna pretend to smooch eachother in the comments? mwa mwa mwwa

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

don't pretend

[–] nightlily@leminal.space 4 points 2 months ago

In German it’s „Juni“ (pronounced you-nii) as in „you need to not be straight“

[–] roserose56@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Pretends to talk and walk like a gay, gets caught anyways and it's forced gay loool.

[–] mossy_@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

what do you mean "june", it's just june

[–] ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org 2 points 2 months ago

Sadly, emphasis and quotation use a similar tone in speech so people misuse quotation marks a lot, especially if bold/italics isn't available

[–] HugeNerd@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

is fapping to Jordan Jensen gay?

If you're a woman

[–] Jaycifer@piefed.social 2 points 2 months ago

I often think of myself as a lesbian. hits blunt