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[–] gnutrino@programming.dev 11 points 1 hour ago
[–] MrKoyun@lemmy.world 32 points 2 hours ago (4 children)

I'd love to announce that I loved dick if it didnt mean certain near-complete social isolation and shunning along with a not insignificant chance of getting beaten 💀

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 53 minutes ago* (last edited 52 minutes ago)

Hey sib, you are valid 🫂🏳️‍🌈

Here's to a world in where everyone can consensually love each other's dick, cunt, or anything between and outside, and even handholding and personality...

[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 4 points 1 hour ago

What's worse is that I'm still not 100% certain if you're saying you're afraid of being shunned and beaten for being gay, or because women are supposed to pretend to be pure and innocent or face being shunned and potentially attacked by jealous partners.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 17 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I'm sorry you're not in a safe time and place to come out yet. We're here for ya in the meantime <3

[–] joulethief@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 43 minutes ago (1 children)

Not the original commenter but boy am I thankful for hearing these words

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 40 minutes ago

hugs You matter and you're not alone!

[–] frog@feddit.uk 9 points 1 hour ago

I am sorry this is the world we live in. You are great just as you are.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 34 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

Before I came out: "What? Doesn't everyone like boobs?"

[–] guynamedzero@piefed.zeromedia.vip 16 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

That’s what I’m saying girl, boobas are the bestest, who wouldn’t like them?

[–] SingularEye@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 hour ago (2 children)

ngl I don't understand the fascination with them.

Sounds like a skill issue 🤷‍♀️.

spoiler(I’m kidding you’re free to be attracted to whatever and whoever you want)

[–] mrmisses@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

As a person into women, I also do not care for boobs. The smaller the better

[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 1 points 10 minutes ago

Liking small breasts is still "liking boobs".

[–] toynbee@piefed.social 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I'm a cis man (and so therefore famously tuned into the preferences of those who aren't) but, until I read this comment, I thought (almost) everyone did.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago

I have friends who are straight that can appreciate how clothing fits and such, but boobs don't do anything sexually for them at all.

[–] Gork@sopuli.xyz 8 points 1 hour ago (1 children)
[–] adarza@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 hour ago

perhaps two, even.