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Don't worry, she loves it :3

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[–] craftrabbit@lemmy.zip 43 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 21 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 day ago

Blåhaj, Dysmorphia, Striped socks, M...inecraft?

[–] AzuranAurora@piefed.ca 31 points 3 days ago
[–] Tiger_Man_@szmer.info 5 points 2 days ago

please do not the haj

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] Eskarina@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

What meeting a cute bottom does to an innocent girl 🙃

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago

Giiiirrrrrl!

[–] Shirow@lemmy.zip 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm sure I would love it :3 Wish I could try 👉👈

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

It's very fun, tho, I'll always recommend easing into it. Suspension bondage can be very dangerous. Took me ages to do my only scene with it.

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I wanna do that too, I have all the supplies, I just need inspiration

[–] GrimmRabbit@lemmy.zip 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Just make sure you have the safety shears at the ready

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago (3 children)

uhhh that didn't come with my $9 bondage kit

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

General tip: almost all kinky stuff can be sourced from non-kinky stores, at non-kinky prices. Get your ropes and chains from a hardware store, get your safety shears from some online first aid supply store... As an added bonus, it will be much better quality than the general sex shop trash.

[–] verdare@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Disclaimer: Not at all my area of expertise.

Isn’t the stuff explicitly designed for kink generally safer and more comfortable? I was under the impression that using just any old rope would lead to some unpleasant friction burns.

[–] Eskarina@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago

If it actually is, maybe, but average sex shop stuff is just run-off-the-mill product with a kinky sticker on it. Depending on material it may be conditioned, but that's still cheaper to do on your own and also makes it a more personal tool, which I like.

Friction burns come more from bad rope handling than bad quality / material. It's not supposed to rub over skin continuously (but can be used consciously for the sensation, of course).

[–] scoobford@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago

Safety equipment is always the most important part!

You only need safety shears for rope though, if you aren't doing rope play don't worry about it.