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[–] CalypsoGirl@lemmy.today 3 points 14 hours ago

My boyfriend masquarades as smokin hot women in some games he plays. Not sure what his reasoning is, probably multiple things: 1) women warriors in their shredded tunics with weapon & artillery holsters & their cleavage bursting out is a lot more entertaining to look at than some guy warrior. 2) probably interesting to note how differently other players treat you when you're a sexy lady, vs how they treat you when you're just some guy.

[–] LemmyFeed@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 16 hours ago

Uhh yeah I guess I am. It all started when I picked Jill for resident evil 1 because I liked her story and load out better. Ever since I just kinda picked female by default.

[–] Fornicus@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago

Always have, always will. Smaller Character models take up less space in 3rd person games and are harder to see in pvp.

Also cake.

[–] Bamboodpanda@lemmy.world 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If I’m going to spend the next 300 hours staring at a character’s ass, I’m picking one I actually want to look at.

[–] wibble@reddthat.com 4 points 1 day ago

Only 300? No commitment!

[–] peacepath@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Yes of course, and I find it funny how we seem to need to find an excuse for that.

Yet, in the need to choose, I identify more as a woman, when it is up to me...

[–] swagmoney@lemmy.ca 22 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

women are prettier damn it! and i want my character to be pretty!! >:(

[–] thousandyardstare@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You just reminded me of a memory that may have sparked my desire to transition.

I developed this one character for Dungeons and Dragons. Oh my God, I'm having a revelation as I type this!

Ok, so Calian is a Half Elf who's mother was a High Elf and father was a Half Orc. Years ago, her grandfather on her dad's side had to fight to be allowed to enter the stronghold of a female Orc. He won, and she chose him as her next of many husbands. They legit fell in love and had their son, Calian's father.

So Calian is 1/2 Elf, 1/4 Orc, and 1/4 Human. She has slightly more pronounced canines and Half Orc eyes - mostly just the golden color irises.

Her parents perished in a racist's terrorist attack who hated all half breeds. She was taken in by a group of nuns who maintained a church to the goddess Sune (remember, D&D). She grew up loved and to love unconditionally. Her more Orcish instinct to be a warlord clashed with her desire to love. And who deserved the most love and devotion?

Princesses.

Calian was so enthralled with the idea of saving a princess from danger that she would make up wild fantasies in her mind where she was the heroine who sought out and rescued princesses. This was her vow to her goddess before going her holy quest.

Calian took her job way too seriously and "searched" for princesses in very unlikely places. She frequented taverns to "save" the barmaids, or snuck into brothels to find her real princess she was destined to save. And she was a bit of a horndog but that never actually came up in the game.

And I realize now that she was who I wanted to be. I already had my princess, and after me married, my queen. Now I have two princesses to look after, and I adore them both.

This character has morphed over the years into another persona that I actually am interested in playing as in roleplay with my wife. Am I ever going to transition? Very unlikely. But I text her as this other persona, and it's so nice to be me without having to change me. I still really dislike how I look and feel, but I am a coward who doesn't want all of the hardships of becoming a woman. I'd rather press a button and POOF become one instantly. Oh well. A girl can dream.

Plus women are pretty.

Women are pretty

[–] VeganCheesecake@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (1 children)

I am non-binary, but I'm definetely more androgynous/fem voice and (trying) style-wise, usually, so that tends to make the female character option more relatable to me. I also appreciate games that have more femboy/androgynous male options, not just HunkBro 9000.

[–] Sordid_Seraphim@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

I have to be honest for many games it's easier to make a fem body androgynous than to make a masc body androgynous. You definitely can do it in "some" but not every.

[–] peaceful_world_view@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Every time and I feel no shame.

[–] laserm@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I use a girl as my YouTube Channel character, for instsnce

[–] BilSabab@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago
[–] huquad@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Back in the runescape days, I used to get tons of free shit by being a girl. When they stopped gifting, I'd convince them to come to the wild and kill them for the rest of their shit

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Okay but what about in Runescape?

[–] huquad@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This guy is catfishing people then robbing and murdering them in the woods.

Halp..

Only if I get a cut of your loot

[–] huquad@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You got me, but first let me show you something cool. It's just behind this tree

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[–] A7thStone@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I've played most of the Tails of games, and switch to one of the women or girls as soon as they are available. That is until Tales of Xillia. It was the first one to give you the choice at the start of the game, and I played the whole thing as Jude.

[–] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 75 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Is that a weird thing for a woman to do?

[–] MarcomachtKuchen@feddit.org 33 points 2 days ago

How dare you?!?!

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I wish we could choose it more often tbh

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[–] MidsizedSedan@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago

In see a dude every day in the mirror. Let me have fun and see something different in videogames

[–] likebudda@reddthat.com 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I remember starting Genshin and given identical abilities, I preferred to look at a female character for the first few hours. I don't project myself into games, I always feel like I'm playing the characters as themselves.

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[–] yaroto98@lemmy.world 46 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Eh, depends on the game. I look at both and pick whichever one looks or sounds fun. Last few games I was a whole team of women in turn based games. Current game I'm a lone wolf male. Sometimes I find it funny making the cutest girl and whomping on enemies, othertimes I make an ugly old lady or man. Sometimes I make them look like me, or my wife, or one of my kids. Litterally depends all on my mood and whimsy at the time.

[–] Emptiness@lemmy.world 23 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Fellow dad here that does the exact same thing. I wish I could add anything useful to this but you've already so eloquently explained it. Thank you for that.

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[–] Nasan@sopuli.xyz 30 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I also would rather play more games written for a female protagonist. 3 decades of male player characters is plenty.

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[–] alx@lemmy.zip 31 points 2 days ago (8 children)

You got me, as my defence women characters often have better clothing options, hairstyles options, VA, etc. Lets a man play dress up in peace 😂

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Last games I remember playing where the men had similarly interesting outfits were Monster Hunter World and Elden Ring and Final Fantasy

[–] Sylvartas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

MH wilds finally lets us equip the male/female armors regardless of the character's gender ! It really upped the fashion game

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[–] wopalopa@lemmy.world 43 points 2 days ago

i like dressing up girls :3

[–] vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Yeah, I blame NV and Fallout 3. The female player model starts out just looking dead eyed meanwhile the male one starts looking uncanny as a whole. Also Fallout 1 and 2 did not help in that regard, my Fallout 2 characters should all have severe STDs but at least ai get free shit and can give someone death by Snu Snu.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I really need to play those games

Good luck losing days of your life on Fallout 2 alone, also forewarning that game is a bastard and obtuse to the absurd at times so have the wiki open.

[–] angstylittlecatboy@reddthat.com 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If they won't let me make a twinky guy then yeah (mainly an issue in Western titles)

[–] Nikko882@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Not the way I would have phrased it, but same. If the men are built like gorillas I play a woman. If the women are all wearing high heels and pretty much nothing otherwise I play as a man. If both options are fine it's a 50/50, tbh.

[–] HollowNaught@lemmy.world 20 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (4 children)

Who are you and how did you become psychic

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[–] Blurntout@lemmy.ca 26 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Only when there models are hot oof I’ve never made a female dwarf character but those Korean boob sliders lol

I might just be a perv

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[–] neidu4@piefed.social 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Yes, because I enjoy looking at women more

[–] AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@piefed.social 19 points 2 days ago (6 children)

Well of course? What else should I be playing as if not? A dinosaur? Don't be silly! Who would play as a dinosaur in a videogame?

nervous laugh

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[–] HuntressHimbo@lemmy.zip 24 points 2 days ago

Got one comment when I was younger from my girlfriend about how I never played a woman in games and now I almost always do

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