They missed out "I wish I spent more time arguing online with strangers"
this post was submitted on 09 Oct 2026
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Bro get the fuck out of here with that shit!
No you! You leave first! Fuck you!
Whoa, can you both please just calm down a bit. Have a think about what you've just said to each other. THEN GET THE FUCK OFF OF MY INTERNET.
My dad invented the internet and he says you cunts better get lost or he'll send over the cyber police!!
My dad works for Microsoft and hes got all your ip addresses. IF YOU ALL DONT FUCK OFF RIGHT NOW HE WILL DELETE ALL YOUR ACCOUNTS.
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Sounds like I should be skipping work to have more gay sex
Im off all day, be here in thirty?
I don't think that's what they're saying, but I am completely onboard with this.
You should aim to have these regrets because it's the people who lived long enough to be interviewed on their death bed that have them. The people who died suddenly probably have regrets like "I wish I hadn't been texting while driving."
"I wish I hadn't been pulled into the ore crushing machine by my sleeve while on the 15th hour of my shift because it's the only way in this town to make enough money to pay for the medicine my son needs to fight the disease this town and refinery caused in him"
But I guess maybe that counts as "I wish I didn't work so much"
"I wish I had more bullet holes on my wingtips and the central section of the fuselage, and maybe some on the elevator."
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“I wish I went to that orgy”
So 1, 3, 4, and 5
I never thought I'd die having worked so hard
What about having worked hard at an orgy?
Aye, I could do that
Notice who's in the sample: people who had enough to afford end-of-life care and was open enough for a stranger to sit by the bed and listen. That's mostly the middle class, privileged compared to those who die with nobody asking them anything. But read regret #2 again. These are people who worked their whole lives producing someone else's income, with better rights than a servant but the same basic position. At the very end, they see it, when they don’t have to work for somebody else anymore! Above them, the wealthy die in private settings, with staff under confidentiality agreements. Ware couldn't have gotten near them, and their nurses couldn't have talked even if she had. Below the middle class, nobody has the time for retrospection. So this isn't the regret of the dying. It's the regret of the people who were allowed to be asked and had education and money to talk to someone.
I have a >!deserved!< reputation for sometimes having a stick up my arse
But you have stick-ception. The stick up your arse has a stick up its arse.
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When one of my coworkers was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer, his first words were, "Damn, I wish I had drank more beer."
Making a bold prediction here: in 30-40 years' time, one of those will be replaced with something to the effect of "Waste less time on the internet"
I've noticed this with videogames, and tbh I'm kinda surprised more people haven't connected it to there yet. Videogames can be a hobby, but if it's all someone does at home for mental stimulation, I don't forecast it's living to the fullest. When going through a new experience, it can be memorable, yet the grind-heavy nature of most modern games doesn't produce much for memorable moments, and often is forgotten in a month's time save for the knowledge of how much time was spent on that.
Social media is rather similar, in that it mirrors the addictive nature of locking your attention and supplying unmemorable mental stimulation, at the cost of substantial time.
In my completely nonbiased and objective opinion that's factual in every way: This is not healthy. I dont feel anyone will look back and say, "I wish I spent more time getting upvotes," or "I wish I got that cool skin in the game I dont play anymore."
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How is this survivor bias?
They had time to answer a poll before dying.
Yeah, the regrets we're missing from the non survivor pool are:
- I wish I had worn the harness
- I shouldn't have stood in front of that stampede of horses
- Should have fixed my brakes
- No one told me I wasn't supposed to BBQ in the nursery
- Oh, the for profit health insurance industry is meant to destroy those who need it most, shit, maybe if I rob a bank I'll have enough to cure my cancer or the cops will shoot me to death. Shoulda been born somewhere else.
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People that didn't work hard and live boring lives conforming to societal expectations died younger and weren't interviewed.
That's an interesting thought. I've always told the people I've managed that no one's on their death bed wishing they worked harder, especially when they're not using all their vacation time or parental leave.
If we could ask those who died young, worked into an early grave, would they be content to have died for their manager? Exhausted, with feelings unspoken, friendships neglected, and happiness deferred? One of my colleagues is a literal workaholic and would probably say yes to all (but they know not everyone is like them and doesn't expect the same from the rest of us.) I suppose we must imagine Sisyphus happy.
For me, there is profound difference between finding meaning in a burden we choose to carry and pushing someone else's boulder.
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I wish I paid more attention to where I was walking and hadn’t fallen off that cli
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- I didn't take advantage of those Dominic Dillenger top-notch used car deals!
Damn, I am a-ok on all those points since transitioning.
Wait, does that mean I'm dy
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I think the dying are maybe not a reliable source of life advice or possible future regrets. Maybe find some healthy 60 year olds or something
I think many people feel that there is a special emotional or even spiritual weight to dying, and that how you feel about your life at that time matters extra. Is that sensible compared to experiencing feelings for longer while you're still alive? Maybe not. But I think there's something to the idea that how it ends it how it finally is forever after that, even if you aren't around to know about it anymore.
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Back when I was younger and stupider and in my urban exploration days, I broke into a condemned library slated for demolition via a steam tunnel and sprayed a fire extinguisher all around on the roof. It’s kinda fun, but like, not fun enough that anyone should have significant regrets they didn’t get to try it.
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I regret not being born rich, got everything else. Haha. /moneybuysmorethanhappiness /fuckcapitalism
Nah, it doesn't. The rich are not automatically happy. The rich, ignorant and stupid, maybe.
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