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Hmm. Strap implies that my partner doesn't have a penis. If that means my partner is a woman...no I wouldn't, sorry.
However! If my partner was a pre/no-OP trans man...fuck yes I'm sucking the strap :3
Trans men are men. Trans women are women. Enbies are valid.

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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 24 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (4 children)

You need a little more fantasy, penis havers can absolutely use a strap! Why would they? Maybe their penis is small (or their partner a massive size queen). Maybe they're combining it with a chastity cage for kinky denial play. Maybe they have massive bottom dysphoria but are somehow fine with fucking their partner with a strap.

[–] tacosanonymous@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I’m imagining that, if you do it right, you could get a monogamous DP situation too.

[–] QueenMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 days ago

Oh. My. God. Genius! 💜

or maybe they can't get hard enough for proper penetration

[–] Olgratin_Magmatoe@slrpnk.net 8 points 5 days ago

Maybe they’re combining it with a chastity cage for kinky denial play.

I'm in this picture and it was very hot

[–] Miisha@lemmy.zip 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

or their partner a massive size queen

I see...I never even considered that. Although, in my honest opinion, the real thing is always better, no matter the size, lol
I don't have to worry about that tho. My bf is...not small 👀

Maybe they have massive bottom dysphoria but are somehow fine with fucking their partner with a strap

That would also kinda make sense!

Huh. I need a bit more fantasy I guess 😆

[–] voxthefox@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago

Micropenises are a thing though, and at that size penile insertion can be no fun for either party.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 11 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I would....demand that someone suck my strap hehe (and have done so in the past).

I don't think I'd get on my knees that way again at this point in my life, but maybe if the strap wearer were really, really convincing...

[–] ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Waow...I'm sure you have (in a good way). And more power to you! 🩷
Sorry, new alt, couldn't find new comments. Last one tho, promise.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Super jazzed you’re back, whichever form of Miisha that may be hehe

Thank you Velma. Me too ❤️

[–] Jo4ted@lemmy.zip 2 points 4 days ago

🥺👉👈

[–] alexis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 days ago

Ugh, being demanding is so attractive

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Miisha's back!

Not gonna say I wouldn't, but I kinda prefer real cock (regardless of if it's attatched to a man or a woman). Given the scenario, events must have transpired to bring me into the situation so, yeah, yeah I would.

Oooh, can it be one of those strapless strapons so that my head movements get translated into something they'd actually feel? Now that sounds juicy

Not gonna say I wouldn’t, but I kinda prefer real cock

Totally get that! When there's an option, the real thing is the way to go. The real thing is just...unique and irreplaceable, lul

[–] SarahValentine@pawb.social 15 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I'd go balls deep and choke out on it.

[–] Miisha@lemmy.zip 8 points 5 days ago

Oh hell yeah. Same 🩷

[–] Clarion_Fae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Would? Buddy, I already have.

[–] Miisha@lemmy.zip 12 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Good, I'm happy for you!
Also please don't call me buddy.

[–] Clarion_Fae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

My first thought upon reading that last sentence lol.

https://youtu.be/iH3K2rkkU7g

I will cease calling you buddy. What would you consider to be an acceptable substitute?

[–] Miisha@lemmy.zip 10 points 5 days ago (1 children)

My first thought upon reading that last sentence lol

LOL
Not bad 😂

What would you consider to be an acceptable substitute?

Either Miisha or girl, girlie, sis or whatever else you'd call a fellow trans woman is fine. Thanks ♥️

[–] Clarion_Fae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I can do girl lol, ironically the reason I said buddy is because I thought "dude" or "guy" might be too gendered and buddy felt gender-neutral.

[–] Miisha@lemmy.zip 9 points 5 days ago (1 children)

It is gender-neutral...I'm just way too oversensitive lol. I apologize. And...thanks! 🩷

[–] Clarion_Fae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago

All good, no worries.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I've know that some people consider "dude" genderneutral, but this is the first I've heard this about "buddy"...

[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 days ago

To me buddy and dude are gender neutral. Dude's been like that since at least the mid-90's. Bro is pretty much there too nowadays, especially with American younger Gen-Z. Ultimately it is up to the recipient. If they say, don't call me X, I don't use X. No debate.

[–] DmMacniel@feddit.org 8 points 4 days ago

Enbies are valid.

I just need to hammer it into my core and eventually I believe that :(

Would?

Have!

My enby AFAB partner is unable to pee standing, but lesbians everywhere are proof you didn't need to be born with one to use one well.

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] Miisha@lemmy.zip 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

That may be so, but where tf do I put the other one? 😭

[–] isVeryLoud@lemmy.ca 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Get u a man with two ports down there

[–] Miisha@lemmy.zip 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I guess...I meant it more in the sense that I myself don't have two ports...yet

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

But somebody could penetrate you and cum on you at the same time

[–] isVeryLoud@lemmy.ca 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Is that like induction charging?

[–] N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 4 days ago

I can’t decide if I wanna make an insuction or indiction joke

[–] transgender11@lemmy.zip 5 points 4 days ago

🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️💯

[–] craftrabbit@lemmy.zip 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yesss you're back again!!!

Yesss. Hello! This is my alt now :3

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 days ago

probably yea

[–] luciole@beehaw.org 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Just yesterday a lovely friend made me realize how much of a turn on sucking on a dildo is for me. So yeah, if the wearer’s into that I definitely would.

[–] ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Omggg! That's so sweet (and dirty!) of them <3
It's...fine, honestly. I remember during my Reddit femboy phase, people would ask me for various types of pictures. One person in particular asked my to send him pictures of me sucking and licking a dildo. Of course, I had a couple at the time already, so I used the red one, lol
While I was doing it, my brain was like "Wtf am I doing with my life 😭. I could be sucking someone's dick right now and I'm sucking on a piece of silicone for men more than double my age on Reddit", but I sent the pics anyway and got some positive reactions. These days tho, I think much more positively of it, even tho they're just dildos. It's good practice anyway :3

Sorry for the late reply, this is my final alt account, lol

[–] luciole@beehaw.org 2 points 3 days ago

You've got such nice toys! That red one with the knot, I definitely want one like that eventually. If you're up for something different and intense I can't recommend enough a steel toy. Easily my collection's fave at the moment. (for butt play of course, not for sucking~)

Toys are a godsend for self discovery and for fun with far away friends. A tool of emancipation if you ask me.

I really understand the shame from being sexually playful. I used to foster a lot of self loathing towards it. Nowadays I prefer to consider myself a threat to the heteronormative sexual order >:3