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That's trivial question: to become friends you must first talk to someone. More than once. To talk with someone more than once you must have some mutual interests or background limiting circumstances. It is easy to find friends in school, work, army, etc. In places with plenty of people who all are in the same situation and thus have some common (important!) themes and opinions to discuss with you. When you're out of such places, you don't have a chance of repeating talk with somebody. That's it.
This is why I tell everyone they should join a choir or a dance class or whatever you fancy. The entry threshold is lower than for bands and orchestras, since you don't need and instrument. There's usually beginner classes for adults, so all you need to bring is yourself and a good mood.