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You need less internet. Or less contact with people who have too much internet.
The situations you're describing, stuff like saying he's not a real man, is what I see online, in YouTube videos videos etc. Those videos obviously have a selection bias, they pick the most egregious examples because that's what gets clicks. I've never seen it in real life.
And IF you see it in real life, well obviously their values don't align with yours, so why would you even WANT to date them; look elsewhere.
On top of that, also keep in mind that people who are "easy-going" (to summarize it as that), will leave the dating pool, while the difficult ones will stay there; you're searching water in a swamp, kinda.
So... no human contact, then? That tracks...
Oh good, so all I have to do is date someone who isn't interested in dating? That makes so much sense.
This is why I just don't date anymore.
If people who don't use too much internet are mystical creatures for you, then you are already in very deep. Join a club, go to meetups, anything where you interact with people non digitally, or you will become a very bitter, caustic person. The signs are already there in your replies, but the ball is in your court, and you are responsible to take action if you don't want that.
No, it means statistically you'll need to try with more than 2 people to find a "good" person - because even if the split was 50/50 in the beginning, the easy going people are leaving the dating pool faster in comparison.
Nobody says you NEED to date, but you don't radiate any kind of gracious "eh, dating is just not for me" attitude. Instead you seem quite bitter, attributing it to an unfair system instead of that unwillingness to come out of the digital world more.
So it's roughly 3 options:
I wish you the best.
I've tried all that. I spent years exploring every option relentlessly. But people are judgemental, and consistently rejected me due to the aforementioned lack of social skills.
I'm already bitter, but not because I spend too much time on the internet. That's confusing correlation with causation. I spend too much time on the internet, and I'm bitter, but both of those things are caused by the consistent social rejection and scorn that I've received throughout my life.
Once people notice that I've tried pursuing romance with more than 2 people (even in the aftermath of rejection), they label me as a player and tell all their friends to avoid me. Getting rejected is seen as a red flag. People tend to be attracted to people that other people are attracted to. "Try, try again" doesn't work in dating.
I'm sorry, I didn't realize I need to radiate grace.
Yeah, I am bitter, but it's not because I'm "unwilling to come out of the digital world more." I stay in the digital world because I've tried socializing in person, and I'm sick and tired of being punished for being not normal.
Although my cat takes some of the bitterness out of it, and I try not to think too much about the rest these days.
In the end relationships are A LOT of work, even before they start; and paying that price is simply not for everybody.