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the question i have is: how are men supposed to know the exact correct amount and time women want attention? because from what i understand if the only thing you're doing is wearing underwear, that doesn't necessarily mean you "want" something, and to assume otherwise is bad? or is that wrong too?
Find a woman mature enough to communicate her needs and ask explicitly for your attention? Anyone of any gender who expects their partner to be a mind reader is going to be disappointed, but people that learn to communicate their feelings and teach their partners that it is safe to do the same will be much happier. If they get upset at having to tell you what they’re thinking or feeling, they’re not ready for a serious relationship yet.
a problem my wife and i had at the beginning of our relationship (solved very quickly, since we talked about it) is that i expected her to be able to intuitively read my body language. because the sign language i use is, for people who don't sign, basically all body language and facial expressions (for people who do sign, there are no actual signs it's all classifiers) and if you aren't constantly reading body language, you won't understand someone. it took an in-depth conversation about linguistics (a really fun one where we compared the four different sign languages the two of us use), but we managed to figure everything out.
You buried the lede. How does something like that even happen? I feel like the odds of two sign-language polyglots being in the same room, let alone in a romantic relationship, are vanishingly small.
That’s really interesting and not something I would have considered, thank you for sharing! I wonder how that impacts communication for deaf autistic folks who suck at body language?
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yes, but women overwhelmingly expect this as a 'minimum standard' and woman dating/relationship advice is full of maxims that basically say your man is shitty if he can't read your mind or he isn't subordinate to your every random whim.
and lots of women believe this nonsense as gospel and verse and trying to tell them maybe they are self-sabotaging... doesn't go over well.
part of the reason this advice is so appealing is because it removes any agency/responsibility/risk of rejection from the woman and puts it all on the man. it reinforces classic gender norms that women are to be silent passive mysterious creatures and all action/agency is entirely the realm of the man.
Agreed. It’s definitely appealing to not have to put in any work, but sabotaging every relationship and having to start over again and again because you expect mindreaders sounds absolutely exhausting.
Like I said, it’s about maturity and the wisdom to realize all that bad advice is bullshit. As a partner you can try to be the one to call her out on it and build good communication skills from the ground up, or you can recognize the pattern and move on to someone who is willing to explicitly ask for their needs to be met.
yeah but it's exhilarating putting yourself on a pedestal and waiting for your prince to come rescue you from yourself.
you should date a woman who is mature enough to express her needs to you openly.
and don't date women who are passive and resentful and stuck in a child like mentality that you are supposed to magically know what they want without them expressing it clearly.