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When I was young, I was naive to the ways of romance, and especially romantic communication. I was often oblivious to advances made upon me, and awkward and unskilled at making any expression of interest without just looking a bit foolish. However, after a lot of experience and many ups and downs in the pursuit of love, I find that I am no longer young.
Succinct, eloquent prose there. Well said
Well, if it was Reclaiming the Blade, I'm not surprised !
Tysm I'm going to watch this right fucking now
Time to don the sexy (steel plate, full covering) armor and invite him to join the Crusade.
Sabaton song for effect optional but recommended.
Time to lose the lingerie and put on a smiths apron
Aww dude.
You ever watch those archer twink videos?
smiles in Blumineck
No sure who said this… sounds like Bill Burr but … “No matter how beautiful she is, there’s some guy somewhere who’s tired of putting up with her shit”
Bill Burr performed in Saudi Arabia. He's not kosher anymore.
Have you tried laying next to your boyfriend while making a sword?
Not sure how laying next to him while he is making a sword is any different.
She could film him and make a documentary
It sounds like hes respecting consent, just being in your underwear doesn't automatically mean you want him all over you and hes respecting that possibility.
If I was playing a video game that I was super sucked into and focused on, and then a girl I was with still in her underwear sat next to me, I wouldn't assume it was an invitation to immediately begin sucking on her titties or something. I'd figure she just wanted to chill next to me in her undies.
If you want to have sex: communicate that. He probably would have been down.
This situation isn't about consent; it's about seduction and attraction. It's not unrealistic that seeing your partner in their underwear might distract you from what you're doing and elicit an amorous response, and that's what she wants. There's no suggestion that that response would be anything but respectful of consent.
Hmm. A “hey” with three Ys and a smirk... I don’t think Melissa’s bf is the problem.
I’m sure men pay attention to her. Just not the men she wants, how she wants.
I don't know about docs but I've read great book about history of bladed weapons, from the bronze Egyptian ones to the ones used during civil war.
Bit of a tangent and a big YES I am a giant fucking nerd - but I do text based roleplaying. People online don't know my actual gender (chick) since I'll play anything. One huge thing I noticed when playing a dude is a lot of the women would just kinda be there and try to be sexy hoping I would do something.
They didn't all write like that, and I still had a few guys to starfished, so to speak, but goddamn YOU NEED TO ENGAGE ME. If I wanted something pretty, I would look at a painting. I need an activity.
be more interesting than medieval sword making.
no, sex isn't the answer. probably reading a book on medieval history and telling him about it is.
it always baffles me how many women i have dated... have no interests or passions, and seem to look down on people who do.
and the women i have dated who did have passions and interests... were way way more attractive and more fun to spend time with, because they didn't expect me to entertain them.
I married a guy who already shared my interests, which I feel is a pretty hard requirement for a working relationship.
One of those interests is history, so we will be needing that docu as well
be more interested in medieval sword making.
no, sex isn't the answer. probably reading a book on medieval ~~history~~ sword making and telling him about it is.
it always baffles me how many women i have dated... have no interests or passions in medieval sword making, and seem to look down on people who do.
and the women i have dated who did have passions and interests in medieval sword making... were way way more attractive and more fun to spend time with, because they provided the sauce for the video on it.
...ftfy
Sometimes a man is just tired, you know?
For real tho, what is the name of that doc?
Also. Is Melissa single?
Finish watching the doc, then ask her.
Would also love to know the doc, lol.
the question i have is: how are men supposed to know the exact correct amount and time women want attention? because from what i understand if the only thing you're doing is wearing underwear, that doesn't necessarily mean you "want" something, and to assume otherwise is bad? or is that wrong too?
Find a woman mature enough to communicate her needs and ask explicitly for your attention? Anyone of any gender who expects their partner to be a mind reader is going to be disappointed, but people that learn to communicate their feelings and teach their partners that it is safe to do the same will be much happier. If they get upset at having to tell you what they’re thinking or feeling, they’re not ready for a serious relationship yet.
a problem my wife and i had at the beginning of our relationship (solved very quickly, since we talked about it) is that i expected her to be able to intuitively read my body language. because the sign language i use is, for people who don't sign, basically all body language and facial expressions (for people who do sign, there are no actual signs it's all classifiers) and if you aren't constantly reading body language, you won't understand someone. it took an in-depth conversation about linguistics (a really fun one where we compared the four different sign languages the two of us use), but we managed to figure everything out.
where we compared the four different sign languages the two of us use
You buried the lede. How does something like that even happen? I feel like the odds of two sign-language polyglots being in the same room, let alone in a romantic relationship, are vanishingly small.
That’s really interesting and not something I would have considered, thank you for sharing! I wonder how that impacts communication for deaf autistic folks who suck at body language?
Find a woman mature enough to communicate her needs
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yes, but women overwhelmingly expect this as a 'minimum standard' and woman dating/relationship advice is full of maxims that basically say your man is shitty if he can't read your mind or he isn't subordinate to your every random whim.
and lots of women believe this nonsense as gospel and verse and trying to tell them maybe they are self-sabotaging... doesn't go over well.
part of the reason this advice is so appealing is because it removes any agency/responsibility/risk of rejection from the woman and puts it all on the man. it reinforces classic gender norms that women are to be silent passive mysterious creatures and all action/agency is entirely the realm of the man.
Agreed. It’s definitely appealing to not have to put in any work, but sabotaging every relationship and having to start over again and again because you expect mindreaders sounds absolutely exhausting.
Like I said, it’s about maturity and the wisdom to realize all that bad advice is bullshit. As a partner you can try to be the one to call her out on it and build good communication skills from the ground up, or you can recognize the pattern and move on to someone who is willing to explicitly ask for their needs to be met.
you should date a woman who is mature enough to express her needs to you openly.
and don't date women who are passive and resentful and stuck in a child like mentality that you are supposed to magically know what they want without them expressing it clearly.
If someone is actively engaged with something, you have to break their attention. I feel like people need to learn more about dissociation and blacksmithing.
"I have presented my flesh in his presence and that wasn't automatically rewarded. What am I doing wrong?"
Have you tried... talking about shared interests? Being funny? Being charming and confident? Putting effort into romance? Like all the same advice that help men gain interest from women works the other way around too, you know? We're all human.
"Men are disgusting! They only think about one thing ~~sex~~ medieval sword making!" /s